Re: Help me let go buckeye@heart: I guess a part of me feels that if he is truly sorry, this is one wrong that can be undone. All of the things he said and did to me can't be undone. This may sound childish, but if he could right atleast one of his wrongs, I might actually think of him as a person rather than scum.
Re: Help me let go sheydp: I don't know.... buying forgiveness? He can't right the wrongs by writing you a check either... I mean, who WOULDN'T want a large check? But really... it sounds as if you have moved past where anything he says matters - or anything he does. I think to ask for money from him, when he is apologizing and his life sucks - would just be using him. He used you at the end, but don't lower yourself to that. You are doing great, and are happy - that is enough revenge?
Shey
Re: Help me let go confused101: If he has to buy her forgiveness, then is it really forgiveness? Hell we all had debts that we normally wouldn't have because we got divorces. Lawyers fees, new furniture, ex's running up credit cards that wasn't even in her name....I know what it's like to be in debt and not being the one to run it up. That's why I took care of it in court DURING the divorce. After it is final, no one owes each other anything unless it is child or spousal support and is directed by a judge. If he knows you are broke and offers it, great. But asking him for help...that's not really his job anymore.
True forgiving does not have a monetary amount tied to it.
