Just needed to talk Sman: Well, here I am again, can't stop thinking about my wife, soon to be ex. How we had a wonderful time on vacation together and wondering why she is doing this even though she told me that she can see things are getting better for us and things are definetly getting better for me in my own personal life. Sometimes I just don't understand what God has us do. I always thought that two should stay married through both the good times and the bad. It just happened that we had one good year and two and half bad years. And now it seems to me that we are both connecting and seeinng what things could be but we are still going through with the big "D", well at least she still wants to go through with it and I don't.
Let me ask you guys/gals...does respect, feelings, and romantic love ever come back for two people who think that they are doing the right thing? I wonder if we are.
I just so lonely when I at my small apartment. I find myself going to the house to be with our kittys during the afternoon when I get out of work and to get a sense of home, and then leave before she gets home from work. My nights are very lonely and boring. Although I am moving into a bigger place and taking two of the fur balls with me to keep me company and b/c I love them dearly. I just wonder and have this feeling in the back of my head that in about 6 months to a year or so she will be coming back and asking if we made the wrong decision and should try again knowing what we know now and how we learned from it. Thoughts?
Re:Just needed to talk seth: I can't answer your question because I haven't been there. All I can say is that I'm hoping that my ex comes back to me in six months. It would be the answer to all of my prayers, I know that sounds pathetic.
After all of the years we spent togheter, I miss her so much. I feel too that my nights are boring. I work and then what? I go home and kill time. Nothing is fun and I have few friends. I always just wanted to spend time w/ her...
Re:Just needed to talk ChrisM: I don't think anyone can answer your questions but you. I'm in the same situation. I Want my wife back, but she doesn't think it can be fixed.
I think both people need to be on the same page when it comes to fixing the relationship, it can't work with just one person trying. Everyone gets lonely, that's why I joined this group...to talk to people in the same situation as me and to vent. Most of my friends are happily married and can't understand what I'm going through.
The only advice I can give is to keep yourself busy with the things you enjoy. It does help you not think about things so much.
Re:Just needed to talk Baby1234: Let me tell you this, I was the one who wanted the divorce at first and one month without him - just sleeping in separate rooms and without my wedding band - was enough for me to realize that nothing else was making sense without my husband. Sometimes we just need to "get away from the trees to be able to see the forest", as a friend said. Unfortunately, he couldn't get over his pain/pride and decided to divorce me anyway - plus, he was already sleeping with someone, "He found a way to fill the emptyness you left on him and, sinse he was "full", he though he didn't need you anymore".
But like you, I still hope for those 6 months, one year, whatever. Sometimes hope is all we are left with, besides cats and dogs...
Live one day at a time, I'm trying to. Everyone says that "time will heal". If time won't bring him/her back, I hope it at least heals...
