Re: Please help me get thru this night Roseville: [quote author=larry link=topic=30561.msg303516#msg303516 date=1151114022">
God is holding you up as we speak and carrying you. do NOT give in or up!
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Larry,
God has been my only source of strength thru this past month. Everyone else has an OPINION (ie...family & friends) and God who sees all can simply give me strength. He doesn't ask me for anything in return but FAITH in HIM.
The prayers have meant more to me than anything else that I've gotten here on Ojar......support & prayers.
Re: Please help me get thru this night Freckles: [quote author=jlw8296 link=topic=30561.msg303497#msg303497 date=1151111891">
I know that some of you know my story (married 10 years, together 15, 2 small children) Husband all of a sudden sprang it on me that he wanted a divorce on the day or so after Mother's Day. A month of horrible feirce heartbreaking conversations. One trip to the counsellor together and he tells me that I'm not worth the time...blah blah. Fast forward to last week, he was in a motorcycle accident and I've spent over a week taking care of his every need. Me and the kids are getting ready to leave for 2 weeks to go and spend some time with his parents 12 hours from home. He says that break will be good for us. Fast forward to tonight:
I thought I was being strong and was doing my best to just ride things out and not pressure him into talking about it, but tonight, I just couldn't. I know that we're going to be apart for longer than we ever have (never before in 15 years except for maybe a night or 2) Anyhow, I confided in him this evening that I just couldn't bare the heartache, stomachaches, sleepless nights, living in limbo, the depression, the not knowing if we're getting divorced or not. I can't live this way anymore, and even though he's told his mother that each time he starts to "come around" I push him even farther back by "trying to make him make a committment to me that he is not ready to make" WTF? We've been married for 10 years and have 2 babies and he can't make a commitment now? Well, I'd promised his mom that I would give it a rest and stop questioning, but with tomorrows trip coming up, I felt so compelled that I needed to know something before we took off on a 12 hour drive. Well, you guessed it - even after more than a week of being tight lipped about the subject - he told me to back off. He told me to quit pushing him and trying to make him say something he wasn't ready to say. He says that he is done talking about the subject. He says that he isn't trying to push me out of the house or anything, but he just can't commit anything to me - and he's not nice about it (if anyone could say something like that and be nice)
Trust me, I'm not crazy - but lately it has taken more and more for me to just be able to deal. I've been seeing a counselor, taking an anti-depressant, taking a "nerve pill" type sedative, taking a sleeping pill, and having 1-2 drinks (alcoholic) before I can even try to go to sleep at night. This man is killing me, but as a stay-at-home mom with 2 young children, I feel very trapped. I have to give up my entire way of life (which was fine until Mother's Day) and give up someone I've loved for 1/2 of my life. He won't talk to me tonight, and we're leaving about 10am in the morning. He says that he'll see me in 2 weeks.
Please help me get thru the night.
Jen
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I can only say that if there is no Sex between you both that is not good.
Any Man needs two or three times a Week Sex to feel Good and not be frustrated.
Ether He is Doing it to himself to Spite You.
OR ? He is getting it Elsewhere
OR He Needs a Prescription like Viagra
It's one of those 3 Things
The *Dont Touch Me ! * Sounds like He is Spiting You and/or Elsewhere
Leaving on a Long Trip 12 hours away will only give the Mouse time to Play
I can Only go by my Life Exprence.
My StbXw when I was at Work SHE had Her Lover Over(At Least Once)
You Think They Love You
SHE was on Phone Naked(After we Had Sex)
talking to Her Cousen(It was HER LOVER)
Saying I Love You to Him
I will Rember That as Long as I Live
:'(
I would Not go on the Trip
If I Did , I would Turn Around after 1/2 Way go Back on Spy Mission
And/Or come back when He did not Expect(bring Camera for Pictures)
[color=red"> Marginal Marrage Advice by Freckles[/color">
Worth EVERY Penny You Paid for It !
:)
Re: Please help me get thru this night MikeB: [quote author=Freckles link=topic=30561.msg303526#msg303526 date=1151115211">
[color=red"> Marginal Marrage Advice by Freckles[/color">
Worth EVERY Penny You Paid for It !
:)
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Isn't this board free?
...'nuff said ;D
Re: Please help me get thru this night Batman: Okay, let me preface this by saying that this is JUST my opinion, and also, I'm kind of a d1ck.
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Now, let me say it.
If I were you, I'd pack up my stuff and leave.
[size=14pt"> Or I'd tell that jerk that he seemed to have HIT THE ROAD pretty well a week ago, and to DO IT AGAIN.[/size">
Tell him to go STAY WITH HIS DEAR MOM and let HER change his sorry-a$$ bandages and that you're no longer going to sit there and be nurse to somebody who is just using you. They pay nurses plenty well to take care of people, and you're not getting any compensation for taking care of his a$$.
I can't believe he's using you like this. It's seriously f*cked up.
He doesn't deserve someone to take care of him if he can't even TALK about commitment.
I swear, my stupid ex didn't have the guts to tell me straight out, either, but if she were to USE ME like this RIGHT BEFORE we separated, it would just make me more angry.
I'm sorry, but I want to squeeze that b@stard's bandages or possibly spill a bottle of rubbing alcohol all over him.
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Okay, back to your regularly scheduled whining session.
>:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:(
Re: Please help me get thru this night Roseville: Freckles,
I trust him. I may be getting totally made a fool of, but I don't believe that a man has to have sex 2-3 time per week to live. Sorry, freckles - maybe that's just you. :-\
We went thru both of my pregnancies without having much sex (he was terrified that he would hurt me because we did it once and it made me bleed - he was terrified of hurting the baby, so we've gone lengths of time before)
I do not know what is going on in his mind, but I do believe him when he says that there is not another woman. I truely want to believe that he would not do that to me or the kids. Having to split is one thing, but having an affair and ending a marriage that way is so much more hurtful. I can't believe he'd do that. Like I said, maybe I'm naive - we're each others first and onlys - I believe that's a special bond we share that we've never shared with anyone else.
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