re: I finally got the truth-the worst day yet charbie: Hi all, I am here again looking for support. Thank god for this board is all i can say!
My stbxh has finally admitted to me yesturday that he has a g/f and is sleeping with her. He would not tell me the truth for along time now. I am completely devistated. It is like the final nail in the coffin. I feel so wothless and I feel so sad. I am just trying to stay as strong as I can for my 2 babies 3yrs and 1yr. I cant stop crying. I was doing well for a while and I just feel like I am going backwards sometimes. This was just the closure I think that I may have needed. It is like waiting for the worst part of something just to get it over with. Well, it has happened. I dont know if i am coming or going. I just wish the pain woudl stop, I just want to be happy again and it just seems like I will never be happy again. I feel like this is it for me and this is my life. I have never felt so alone and abandoned. :(****
Re: re: I finally got the truth-the worst day yet wingnut: Hey Charbie,
I know personally, where you are. I went through the same mess almost a year ago. The truth does hurt, but we sometimes need to hear it to help us move on the next chapter. Just remember, this is like losing someone to death. The grief is very real and seems as though it will never go away, but I promise it will. It is like a scar from an injury. It hurts when you get the cut, but after time it will heal up and you are left only with this feeling less mark that is there to remind you of what has happened. The memories will be there but the pain will ease. I was on a roller coaster ride for a long time, almost lost my job because of it. One day, I just kicked myself and said she is not worth it. I am the victim, so am I going to let her destroy my life more or am I going to take charge and make something for myself and the kiddos that live with me. I hope this helps. It is one day at a time, and I promise it will get easier for you.
Wing
Re: re: I finally got the truth-the worst day yet alonewith2: I'm not sure I can add much to what Wingnut said. He said it all perfectly.
It is painful. Give yourself some time to grieve. Then slowly build yourself back up. You can get through this...one day at a time. ;)
Re: re: I finally got the truth-the worst day yet Lumpy: [quote author=charbie link=topic=30580.msg303641#msg303641 date=1151149100">
This was just the closure I think that I may have needed. It is like waiting for the worst part of something just to get it over with. Well, it has happened.
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While the pain is probably worse than it's ever been right now this should be a turning point for you. As much as it hurts it beats not knowing. It beats waiting. He's not worth your pain.
Re: re: I finally got the truth-the worst day yet charbie: Thank you all for your warm responses. I am so very grateful for them. I am ahving a really hard day today, Ive been to the aquarium w/ mykids...(i was a mess)...Ive been to the cemetery crying on an old friends headstone..(he committed sucide 9yrs ago)...I just cant keep still. I am so dead inside. This is the worst pain that I have ever felt. I do hope that this starts to ease up as time goes on. I wouldnt wish this pain on anyone.
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