I'm devastated - I found out about her new BF sneaker: Oh God! Why does it hurt so much. I just found 2 pictures of them on the Internet where she's says 'the perfect little happiness'. I haven't stopped crying since. Many of you knew I still had hope and now I'm crushed. I can't make it stop. I still love her so much. She kept telling there was no one. I sort of new this would happen, but not so soon. She's been out of the house for less then a month. After 3 years together and a beautiful little baby girl. HurtS! I wouldn't be surprised if they met before she left. God do I feel lonely! The worst is I still hope inside that it is just a rebound and she'll be back. And I would take her back. Its so pathetic but I would. I don't know what to say.
I'm crying.
I had to tell someone, I'm alone here.
Re: I'm devastated - I found out about her new BF Whirlpool: Im sorry man, that really blows. I have not had the torture of knowing about a significant other yet, I know the day will come and it will hurt like hell. No one can say anything to make you feel better right now. Just be responsible in your feelings and reactions. Don't make an idiot out of yourself, maintain your dignity with her.
Re: I'm devastated - I found out about her new BF Fjord Girl: I'm so sorry, Sneaker. No words of wisdom here, you have every right to feel sad because it DOES hurt a lot, even more if you still had some hope. I found out my EX had a girlfriend after a year of being separated and it hurt just the same. I hope eventually you will make peace with it. It takes time and effort because there is a moment when you realize you just have to let go and keep going.
This sounds like caca, huh? I'm great at giving the "It's going to be all right" discourse when I personally just hate to get it myself. I guess I will just send you a big hug and wish you good things. Time to think of yourself, you can't allow another person take control of your life.
Re: I'm devastated - I found out about her new BF alonewith2: Oh, sneaker, you are NOT pathetic! Most of us have had similar thoughts at one time or another. Hell, I DID take my stbx back after he finished his affair...
It does hurt and it does suck, majorly, to find out about a new gf/bf. It's like tearing open that wound all over again. What you need to do is refrain from looking at those pictures. Don't even go near her website. I know it'll be tough to do, but doing so will only hurt you more.
Re: I'm devastated - I found out about her new BF yella: First off, don't feel pathetic. You're not pathetic. Your heart wants her back because you feel rejected, crushed, and alone. All valid feelings.
We all know that something like this is completely crushing to the soul, but that's why Ojar is here, so you can tell someone and get it out. It's completely ok to cry, and it's completely ok to post whatever you need to in order to sort these feelings out.
As time goes on that pain you feel, and the void left will begin to subside. Try to find something, anything, you enjoy doing, make it your own, and give it your all. It'll help you through this. Trust me, I've done it, and it helped me.
This will go away soon... until then... we're all here to help you ride it out.
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