Re: I'm devastated - I found out about her new BF StillLearning: Hey there Sneaker
Whatever you do mate do not go off your brain and make matters worse for yourself...I did that a number of times and it was the absolute worst thing I could have done. Be kind to yourself and take it easy ....look after your little girl she is more important than anything :)
Re: I'm devastated - I found out about her new BF WhoAmINow: Sneaker, I'm so sad to read this........I can't even imagine..and don't want to...but imagine this day will come for me too. :(
I know this doesn't really truly help heal the pain, but do something for yourself today. Anything to take your mind off "them" and put the focus on you and in moving forward for yourself and your daughter.
Tomorrow's a new day......sending positive thoughts your way!
Re: I'm devastated - I found out about her new BF sneaker: Just took my sleeping pills and came here before I get sleepy. I made through the day with the help of my sister and her BF. I'm working on being angry at her, because that's the only way I can cover up the pain. You guys were nice. I read my first post of the thread and saw how shocked I was. It made me realize that I have to move on and accept the fact that she's not coming back. That's the hardest part. Today I had time to reflect on this and came to the conclusion that I felt betrayed, alone and abandoned, hence the anger.
I know she' s been trying to reach me all weekend, after I wrote her an email telling her: Bring her (our daughter) monday at five as planned!
I'm also stop taking sh#$ from her and I she aks me if there's anything wrong, I'll say what do you want me to say?
<Tell you you betrayed me, made me feel like sh*&%, that you've been a hypocrite. That instead of helping me when I needed you the most, you prefered block off your feelings and leave, asking for even more money. But that's over and you don't be nice to me just to get your money from the house.> I don't kow she'll react but I feel I havr the bittkin=vt
Re: I'm devastated - I found out about her new BF LostTeacher: sneaker, i am so sorry.
i know what it's like to hold on, thinking there might be something, and there really isn't.
when i first left my ex, i told him we either needed to talk about things, or i was coming to get my stuff. well...he told me to get my stuff.
a few weeks later i went over to try to talk to him about dividing our stuff. i thought that we would see one another, and things would change. wrong again. i got to the house, and he had a number of boxes waiting for me at the door, and a list of how we were going to divide things.
sometimes it takes these kicks in the face to see what is plain and in front of our face. sometimes the harsh is how we have to get it. otherwise we continue to hold onto the past, which is not our future anymore.
LT
