Re: I'm devastated - I found out about her new BF sneaker: I knew the day would come, she said she would meet other people. But it's so soon. I feel betrayed, angry, sad, all at the same time. My head is spinning with thoughts and things I want to say to her. I want to yell at her, but in the same time and I want to stay nice to get some hope that she sees that I'm a good guy, better than I was.
I just don't know. She's in love and I feel like crap. I know many Ojarians went through it, the pain will fade and all. But when you're living it, it's hell. I feel sick in my stomach.
How could she do this when we have a child. She should've kept fighting for our family until I realized the real problem between us, instead of saing she wasn't happy and wanted out.
I have so many things to say to her, but she couldnt care less anyway now.
Re: I'm devastated - I found out about her new BF larry: hey sneaker,
i am not going through the exACT same thing you are, but what i'm doing to survive is NOT looking for her, looking up stuff on her, or going to the sites that I know she's on.
i am still deeply in love with the one who broke my heart. difference is, she still loves me, but it was a rebound relationship and she didn't want to be tied down. i guess she wanted a loose knit relationship while i wanted something serious.
my point is, the only thing that's getting me through this is trying to forget about her. it's a VERY difficult thing to do, and i still the get the hurt pangs whenever a thought in my head pops up of her with another person or sharing things with a man other then me, but unfortunately for me, you, and so many others, there's nothing we can do to change it.
if you're fortunate, she WILL see a way back into your life and realize the mistake. you should prepare for the worst though and simply try to 'avoid' her and anything having to do with her until you're whole again.
i have a note on my monitor that says 'want sleep?' to remind me of the horror nights i had after the breakup and how little sleep i got. i loved my sleep before her, and i still do, but because of the breakup i didn't get any. so that note is my reminder of where i'll end up back to, if i continue revisiting the past.
i cry a lot too. i admit it. i'm going through a serious depression right now, and it's very similar to what you're going through. i feel for you and i will pray for your peace and comfort. in the meantime, first step is to attempt as hard as hell to remove anything of her from your life. pictures, videos, whatever. i know you have a child together, that's going to tie you two together forever. however that doesn't mean you still can't move on. keep only your child between you, and don't try to get into her 'current events'. that will not help you.
my ex and i talked on the 20th and she was telling me how she was going to this rock band show in detroit and that she was going to meet the band after. all i could think of was some band member all over her and smoosing all over her and things like that. that hurt me to the core. but if i hadn't known that, i'd be better about it today. don't ask, don't tell. that's what i'm trying to do. it's been slightly over a month since she did the deed, but really i'm still in the beginning stages because we kept talking and i initiate conversations and such.
i'll pray for you chief. keep posting here as you need, and we're here for you man.
Re: I'm devastated - I found out about her new BF sneaker: Thank for your words and Larry and I wish she still loved. I know I'll have to 'move on', and I do fall apart when I picture them together. And I will indeed have to see for the rest of my life and that's gonna hurt because she so damn beautiful. I would see her in the last month and I felt so bad inside everytime. Now I can't imagine meeting her tommorrow when she drops off our daughter. She doesn't know I know about her NG. I've been keeping busy by writing and by going over through a dating web site. I so far from there, but I have to start thinking about my future, which I don't see yet. I feel old, alone (even with my family's support). The only relief, is that I don't have to wonder every minute of the day if she has somenone. It doesn<t make it easier, on the contrary, but my pain and focus have switched to another place that will bring me, I hope, to acceptance. Because now: I don't accept this f@$% situation. I'm hurting and she's in love. It's like I have never existed. All she will remember about me is the last miserable year.
I'm learning the hard way that good guys don't always finish first.
Re: I'm devastated - I found out about her new BF sneaker: Oh! and Alone,
Right now I feel, no I know, I would also take her back after she's done with this guy. But i know her enough to know that she'll be with him a long time (which adds to thge pain).
I don't need to look at the pictures again, they're tattooed on my brain. Including the comment she wrote, wich is worst than seeing her in his arms smiling.
It is, as far as I can remember, the worst day of my life.
Re: I'm devastated - I found out about her new BF charbie: Hey sneak, I am sending you many hugs. You replied to my post and I know you are sad. I am in hell with you. This is the most awful life experience of our lives Im sure! Hang in there for your child. I am trying so hard to do the same. I now have the responsibility of raising them all on my own. I dont know how I will do it but, I have to. I hope you read a couple of the posts on mine there were a couple of interesting comments in there. They made me cry as I read them but, it does help even if it is just that small little bit for even a few short seconds. I wish you well sneak, I am crying for you too. I swear I feel your pain I am so sorry. Hang in there with me please!
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