Re:any regrets Sharp: I regret stepping back and letting him handle the finances while I was preoccupied with being pregnant. I regret trusting he was taking care of the responsibilities he said he was to find out money was being wasted on drugs. I regret choosing him to be there by my side during the c-section instead of my mom. And I regret ever handing a penny of my paychecks over to him instead of handling the finances myself!
Re:any regrets Beren: I don't believe in fate or destiny, so I don't say, "Everything happens for a reason," but just the same, I would not trade in what I've learned to have my marriage back. There's nothing about what I did in the marriage that I'm particularly ashamed of.
I would want for the past to remain the same, mistakes and all. It was the test that every marriage has to go through, to pass and be improved, or to fail and be disbanded. To go back and change something would only delay the test.
I like that I believed in the marriage. I like that I believed it would endure the challenge. I like that I believed in her and trusted her. I don't believe the fact that I was mistaken makes me a fool.
So, what's to regret? Only that we failed to endure. But I don't regret that I tried, and I don't regret the way that I tried.
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Okay, that's not really what I think. Sure would be nice though. Maybe some day I will.
Beren
Re:any regrets twetifb: I regret hiding his secrets and being his enabler. I regret picking him up every time he fell, instead of him learning how to get back on his feet by himself. I regret never putting my own needs first. I regret believing that I’m here to take care of others. I regret thinking that I don’t need anyone to take care of me because I do. I regret being a “doormat” over and over again. I regret that he sees his money as his and my money as ours. I regret that I shut down instead of fighting for want I believe is true. I regret the person I have become in this relationship but I know it will make me stronger and allow me to move on.
Re:any regrets Sharp: Tweety, you are answering alot of your own questions. Turn those regrets into, I will not and see where that takes you. Only one I'd revisit is needing someone to take care of you. You may want a "second half" but you need to remove yourself from that ideal momentarily to progress...Am I making any sense?
Re:any regrets costa blanca: firstly i regret getting involved when my heart wasnt in it.
once involved, i regret staying cause i didnt want to break his heart.
7 years of madness. to end up having my own heart broken by him!!
lesson learned.
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