Re: ex wife from hell freedom3: Everyone tell me the same thing. I worry so much about the kids. They will be so messed up for life with all this stuff she is doing infront of them.
Re: ex wife from hell jrios29: I am so happy you are treating those kids like you would your own. Even though it may be very hard to do, try to put things in context for them. Make sure what ever they see or hear, they don't think it's because of them. Also, have you thought of peacefully approaching the ex wife? Meeting in a neutral place and CALMLY discuss what's going on? Ask her what her way of parenting is, what action she takes in certain situations. Make her feel that you want to be a partner in raising the kids, not replace her. It sounds like she is scared of losing her kids to you. Let her know you want what's best for the kids, and you want to work with her for thier benefit, not against her. I hope you are able to resolve things nicely for the benefits of the kids.
Much love,
Jay
Re: ex wife from hell spooky: I'd be sure and point out what all the BS will do to the kids. If she doesn't take that seriously it's a sure sign she's putting that jealousy of hers ahead of them. Hard situation to fix... Whatever you do, don't just sit and take it. Behave in front of those kids, they don't need to witness any more ugliness, but make it perfectly clear that you won't stand harassment. Now I'm not advocating getting physical, but you have every right to defend yourself. Have him help you in a direct action against her, united fronts have more impact.
Re: ex wife from hell sosad05: [quote"> probably just really jealous that her x has moved on with his life and in her eyes [/quote">
I'm sure thats exactly what it is. She probably has no worries with your parenting abilities. She probably just realizes she screwed up.
Seeing a post like this makes me think I should get "xw of the year award". I dont talk to the new wife. Never even met her. Nor do I care to. I dont have a problem with her caring for my children because she's bought them everything under the sun. It could be a lot worst.
Re: ex wife from hell freedom3: She has made it clear she hates me and always will. There is so much to my story I've been fighting with her for over 2yrs. I'm trying to be the bigger person when she is around but it's hard. I just hate that the kids have to listen to her say things bad about me. They are on pins and needles when we both are around. I normal just sit back and watch her try to be super mom. In the pass 2yrs I've left him b/c of all the stuff she has done and put the kids thru. I've decide that this is going to be the last time I'm going back. The older son is starting to play games now telling her everything I do etc. if I correct him etc. I've never physically put my hands on them sometimes I have to rasie my voice to correct them.
I'm also having a problem with him-boyfriend. There is alot to that story as well. In the pass he has lied to me been with his wife came back to me. The last time i took him back he told me that he just wanted his family together and she played games. He SAYS he finally see that it could never work again. He is in love with me. I've always been a insercure person with it comes to men. I'm having a hard time trusting him. I know that I love him and his kids it's just so hard to TRUST after getting hurt so bad by him. IT's so funny b/c I was married for 8yrs and when I left my drug head husband I never really hurt BUT when he went back to his family to give it a retry I went crazy, Crying, not eatting, etc. I never hurt so bad. I gave in when he came crying for me to take him back. He said he just wanted his family back that he felt like he failed them (kids).
Last summer is when he took her back well that was not a good time. I did get in a fight with him and her. IT was so ugly. I bet the hell out of him and grabed her. I'm not a voilent person I just got so hurt and could not take it anymore lies. MY big problems is I don't know if I can believe a word he tells me he is really good. He is a polition he knows just what to say to claim me down when I get up tight. I'm learning!
