Re: Is it all the other person's fault? Fjord Girl: [quote author=snkpack link=topic=31001.msg308896#msg308896 date=1151949252">
A lot of the stories on this board are bound to be one-sided. I have no doubt that if my ex showed up on this board and told things from his perspective that you guys would feel bad for him, but it would be because he was focusing on all the negatives about me and not the positives and probably omitting a lot of the crap he did. Its all perspective.
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Bingo. I use to joke a lot when people tell me I'm nice. I tell them "I don't know... You should ask my EX to get some perspective." -- And yes, it's a joke, but it's also a way to say that I'm not some little innocent person. I know I'm somewhat responsible for my marriage breakup, but I'll never stop saying that there are ways to do things and my EX was a complete jerk at the end. That's what makes me the better person here, even if I'm not blameless.
Re: Is it all the other person's fault? katelyn: Awesome wealth of information, Phyxius. You hit the nail on the friggin' head.
"I know I'm not perfect, but..."
Really? Do you? Why don't you spend half as much time thinking or listing your own faults then?
Is it really probable that I have more faults than you? Is it probable that you have more faults than I do? Which one of us is right? What are the odds that it's most likely pretty much equal?
I just keep thinking about this in a mathematical way of odds and probability.
Furthermore, WHY do we do it? Why are we afraid to face our faults? What's the big freakin' deal?
Come on people. Discuss.
Re: Is it all the other person's fault? snkpack: I don't know Katelyn. I think I'm my own worst critic and I have no trouble admitting what my issues are.
Re: Is it all the other person's fault? audi_driver: see I DID take responsibility for my mistakes.....that is why I went to counseling nearly 40 times even while looking the evil eyes of divorce in the face.........I worked on myself and learned how to communicate.
Once again though.....I didn't cheat, so her cheating for 9 months behind my back is BS........
I might have not been the best husband but I certainly didnt deserve what I got.
Re: Is it all the other person's fault? katelyn: I'm not by any means saying that anyone deserves being mistreated and especially cheated on. That is never okay under any circumstances. Period.
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