Re: Urges outoftheblue3: I know how it feels. Do you have any friends you can call? I would call a friend or my dad every time I had the urge to call my husband.
....if I knew about this board back then I would have posted here too
Re: Urges YellowJacket: When you are feeling that way and it hurts so much, think about this -- by calling her you're going to make the hurt worse. The secret to feeling better for right now is suppressing that urge and occupying your mind with something else. Try exercising until you're exhausted. It has all sorts of benefits and lifting your spirits is one of them.
Re: Urges LostTeacher: you will hear this a million times....and it will make you mad, and sick, and angry, but....
NO CONTACT!!!!
i didn't believe it for the longest time...and it just caused more and more pain. once i cut it off, even though i missed his voice, and talking to him, it made it easier.
i used to talk to my ex all day. we used to email all day, talk a bunch of times a day. i had never gone longer than 2 weeks without seeing him since i was 14. i never thought i would make it.
now....it's been since last september since i had a voice conversation with him, and since may with an email conversation.
no contact is the only way to get over it, to make it easier, to help accept it.
LT
Re: Urges ATLfoodie: Regardless of what happens, we will remain friends. I already promised that and she is a good person. She just feels we got married too soon. (2 1/2 months after we met) These are the main obstacles now.
I wait for her to call me now.
Re: Urges Ramsey: I've also been separated from ex for a short time. About two weeks now. I also ache for the sound of her voice. We had to meet up today to talk about settling things between us for our divorce. The sound of her voice seemed to fill a well rubbed in groove in my brain. It was hard to part afterwards.
I know that, for me, having as little contact as possible would be best. It would only reawaken my desires to hear her and feel her. I ache for her right now. But I know it's over and I don't want to hurt myself any more than I have to.
It's not so much her space that is important for you to take care of. It's you and your heart and your health that is important for you to take care of. No contact or as little contact as is absolutely necessary will help you heal. You need to help yourself heal because you are important.
Take care,
Ramsey
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