Conclusion crushedman: I discovered this website at the lowest point of my life. In the span of a couple of weeks, I was kicked out of my apartment, my car was repossesed, I lost my job, and my gf dumped me. Despondent, desperate, suicidal, confused, heartbroken, I've known it all. The darkness came like a river and washed away everything, even my tears. It's been 9 months, and I've managed to get everything worthwhile back in my life. But I haven't forgotten. I developed a near obsessive habit of reading broken heart stories. It's a habit that has continued to this very day. These stories are the body of evidence that I humbly submit to back up this post- CONCLUSION.
1. When someone hears ILUBINILWU, it's usually the beginning of the end.
2. When one spouse moves out, the odds for reconciliation become longer still.
3. The longer the seperation, the worse the odds.
4. Seperation is an incredibly tramatic event for the partner left behind. At a certain critical point, it doesn't matter whether the leaver returns or not. The damage is done, and the pain cannot be erased.
5. The presription for working it out is very simple. BOTH partners must want to work it out.
6. However, getting the leaver to want to work it out is not easy, it is hard at best and impossible at worst.
7. Pressure almost never works. Giving space occassionally does work, as does other 'playing the game' tactics.
8. The cost of these 'playing the game' tactics is very high. Loss of self respect is one particularly nasty side effect.
9. The leaver almost always is having an affair.
cm
Re: Conclusion ATLfoodie: I was the leaver. My wife needed some space and time and it is the only way I know of to have any hope to save my marriage. I didn't want to leave. I am miserable and heartbroken. I just hope and pray she wants to save the marriage as much as I do.
Re: Conclusion Bird: i think i agree with you on all points of observation...
Re: Conclusion rjack0612: You seem right on the money CM. Oh, and don't forget the nes who cheated and leave blame YOU for everything.
Re: Conclusion e-blogger: crushed and bdad, exactly. We should all write a book and make some lemonades out of lemons ;)
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