Any pet owners? I Need advice! Pepper: Hi everyone.
I havn't been around for a while. I thought that I was doing just fine. Lots of new people on here now.
Anyway, it has been six months since I've been on my own. This weekend was a really bad one for me.
Here it goes...
We have two cockatiels. I was letting him come over and visit the birds now and then, because I know that he misses them. That wasn't working out because all we were doing was fighting. So...I was letting him take the female home with him for visits. (They are more attached to each other, anyone who has had birds would understand.) He took her on Thursday for a visit and was supposed to bring her back on Saturday afternoon. He didn't bring her back. I don't know what to do. The two birds were very attached to each other. When you took one out of the room, the other would scream for him/her to return. I told him before this happened that if he wanted the birds he had to take both of them. I was willing to give up my babies to keep them together. ( I cannot have children so they were like my babies) Now I have one lonely bird, and I can't even imagine what the other is like. I miss her so much also. I begged him not to split them up.
Anybody have any advice out there?
Pepper
Re: Any pet owners? I Need advice! LostTeacher: we had a dog together.
i couldn't, at the time, take her, because i had nowhere to keep her.
so instead, he has them.
i don't visit, or take her, because it breaks my heart to have to see her. i couldn't do that over and over.
i know that we love our pets, but they are not people. we have to see that. sometimes we have to make a decision....mine was giving the dog to my ex. it was a very difficult decision, but i ahd to do it.
LT
Re: Any pet owners? I Need advice! Chey: Oh my God Pepper that is so hurtful! He obviously doesn't care about the birds or he wouldn't be doing that to them. He's obviously doing it to hurt you. If he really cared about them, he'd want them happy together.
I would seriously have someone go over there and kick his butt...but since I'm sure you don't want to do that, I would just keep on at him to bring the bird back and stress how much it's upsetting the other one. Can you get custody of pets?
Re: Any pet owners? I Need advice! LostTeacher: i would just not let him see the birds.
instead of letting "visitation" happen, tell him to get over it.
LT
Re: Any pet owners? I Need advice! TeddyR: Thats a sad predicament since birds depend on their mate,especially if a lifemate.Try for now putting a mirror in the cage near his/her roost.That way at least it will appear there is another bird.If the bird isn't brought back soon,i guess the only option may be to go to a local pet store and find a replacement mate of similar age/type.Maybe your local Vet or Humane Society has a lead on a bird needing placement.Gee,i hope he brings the mate back soon.Let "him" know that he isn't helping the bird by keeping them split up.The visits would have been better if he took them both together since going to a new place being alone affects them adversely.One or the other often passes if left alone to long.Sorry,i can't be of much help to you.
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