Re: why jrios29: Bro, I feel ya! I still live with my stbxw because I can't stay away from my boys! I don't believe that your feelings have been amplified by the situation. You sound like a wonderful father who wants to give his kids the best possible. If you feel you can provide a better life for them than the xw (and have the ability to prove it) as well as see it's the best option for them, than fight for full custody. More and more the taboo of the mother deserving custody automatically are fading away. But a word of caution... do what's best for the kids, not what's best for you. In my case, my kids would be better of with me, but emotionally they are 100% mama's boys! It would be too much for them to rip them away from thier mom. But that doesn't mean I can't be the dad I want, and need, to be. There is an AWESOME book called "Always Dad" by Paul Mandelstien. He shows how to make the divorce as easy on the babies as posssible, as well as show fathers how you can make you presence known as if you were still there 24/7. I know it's no substitute for coming home and having the babies run to you every day, but we MUST make the most out of it. I will pray for you and may Allah bless you and your children, and may Allah be your rock through this very hard time. BIG HUG TO YA BRO! ( A manly, macho hug..... >:( Someone give me a football and a beer! :P lol!)
Re: why boysithurts: Fleur: she could have lied, but lies although do damage they ALWAYS come back to haunt you. they would never hold water..
as far as being a babysitter while she goes out, especially with the OM. that whole concept makes me gag. maybe & that's a huge maybe when i have healed, if i ever forgive her, & when i am in a place in mind body & spirit whole again & feel indifferent. nope, feels like that never gonna happen.
Jrious: full custody is not an option. her only good trait at this moment is that she is a great caring mom. she is impulsive selfish & hurtful she makes mistakes. i see her for who she is today! but in the best interest of these boys, they need us both,always have & always will.
now if i could only clone them.(ojarians is that technology available?, is it ethical?)
i would have to have the origionals lol.
the only thing for sure i agree on is This whole situation really sucks.
i will check out that book thanxs
Re: why jrios29: I am glad that despite everything, she is a loving mother. I am glad you are not interested in taking the kids away from thier mom because of that. I hope you continue to be the best dad for your kids. It sux.... it really, really sux to be away from them, but I know with me, it makes the time that we spend with each other that much greater, (if that's even possible! lol!) Good luck and God Bless.
