I tried, but it doesn't work! Chris: well.......started dating again. went out on one day, totally upfront and honest about what i was looking for; friendship, companionship......and if that works out, something more (not specific to the person i went out on a date with, but a general statement about me)....for those of you that have not dated much, this subject comes up all the time so get use to it......men and women.
now after the first date it was text after text, can't wait to see you again, you're a great person............don't get me wrong the date was nice, but unlike my past dating experience, i wasn't jumping in with both feet, no matter how interested the other party was. so i asked her on a second date...a day-date, lunch and listening to music at a local festival. after that it was more texting, miss you, thinking about you.....etc. i returned none of these sentiments to her, hoping she would realize what she was doing and stick to her guns about not taking things too fast (something she revealed on the first date).....well, now she is desperately trying to plan another date before i leave for vacation and before she goes out of town, but there really isn't much free time so it's either 1 or 2 days out of 2 weeks to choose from.
she is a fun, interesting person, but i can see this going to hell in a handbasket fast!!! i tried to address the schedule conflicts as no big deal......we'll have to play things by ear. but now i don't even know if i want a third date......she's latching on quick and i even haven't given her anything to latch on to!
i'm confused......she just got out of a 19 month relationship with the one she thought was "the one" and now this! did i get asked out by the wrong person or is this the way it's going to be?? i've done everything but tattoo my intentions on her forehead. is there such a thing as dating just to enjoy the company or does there always have to be the potential for a longterm relationship?!?!?!?
-br
Re: I tried, but it doesn't work! Lumpy: Not the right girl for you right now BR. I'd at least postpone doing anything with her til after the vacation you're talking about. A self-enforced cooling off period if you will. If she doesn't get the message after that, move along.
Re: I tried, but it doesn't work! snkpack: I was the dating just for fun girl until about a year ago. Just your bad luck to get someone who's looking for more than you're ready for. But it can exist.
Re: I tried, but it doesn't work! superwife: BR- very interesting post. Interesting to see the other side of it.
Do you like her? Is she 'one of us' (divorced/sprarated)?
I would be honest w/ her. Perhaps she doesn't realize she is coming on too strong.
Re: I tried, but it doesn't work! Chris: [quote author=superwife link=topic=31030.msg309231#msg309231 date=1151997223">
BR- very interesting post. Interesting to see the other side of it.
Do you like her? Is she 'one of us' (divorced/sprarated)?
I would be honest w/ her. Perhaps she doesn't realize she is coming on too strong.
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i enjoy her company, but i don't have the same "i miss you", "thinking of you" feeling as she does. she is one of us, divorced with kids. i have been honest with her and she does agree with my viewpoint, but it doesn't seem to stop her from going overboard with the attention.
i really don't know if i should just not see her again or just let her figure it out that i'm not looking for the same thing she is..........even though she won't admit it.
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Not the right girl for you right now BR. I'd at least postpone doing anything with her til after the vacation you're talking about. A self-enforced cooling off period if you will. If she doesn't get the message after that, move along.
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thanks lump.....doing that was my gut reaction to handling the situation.
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