Re: I tried, but it doesn't work!

Re: I tried, but it doesn't work! twetifb: [quote author=BR493 link=topic=31030.msg309178#msg309178 date=1151984793">
she is a fun, interesting person, but i can see this going to hell in a handbasket fast!!![/quote">

If you see that after two dates, I wouldn't suggest a third. Why put yourself through it if you already have a feeling it's going to get worse? Seriously, dating is suppose to be fun and it is when you find the right person/persons to spend time with.

[quote"> i'm confused......she just got out of a 19 month relationship with the one she thought was "the one" and now this! did i get asked out by the wrong person or is this the way it's going to be?? i've done everything but tattoo my intentions on her forehead. is there such a thing as dating just to enjoy the company or does there always have to be the potential for a longterm relationship?!?!?!?
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maybe texts are because she's just trying to replace the relationship she just got out of. has she had any time to be on her own? the breakup of a relationship like that is probably very similar to some of our divorces. we've all learned on here that it's best to take some alone time after a serious relationship and maybe that's what she needs but doesn't know it.

as far as dating just to enjoy the company...there are plenty of women out there that want only that, you just have to find her!

stay positive and don't settle or fall into something you don't want! ;)

Re: I tried, but it doesn't work! 2be: BR... she may be a great person but it sounds to me that YOU are her rebound. She's transferring her emotions from this 19-month relationship right onto you and she is freaked about the distance so she latching on.

You'll receive me therapy bill in the mail within a week. ;)

Re: I tried, but it doesn't work! Chris: [quote author=2be link=topic=31030.msg309684#msg309684 date=1152114702">
BR... she may be a great person but it sounds to me that YOU are her rebound. She's transferring her emotions from this 19-month relationship right onto you and she is freaked about the distance so she latching on.

You'll receive me therapy bill in the mail within a week. ;)
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i had a little email exchange with her this morning and i kept re-iterrating the friend thing and nothing serious.......seems she's a little put-off about those statements even though she had agreed before that that is what she was looking for.

i definitely see the rebound thing in her..........nope....not for me!

Re: I tried, but it doesn't work! superwife: [quote author=BR493 link=topic=31030.msg309768#msg309768 date=1152121389">
i definitely see the rebound thing in her..........nope....not for me!
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Just be a good dude and let her know. You don't have to entertain any conversation after that (if she's that clingy, she may try to 'hold on' to you), but just let her know. Don't leave her hanging, that's just not cool.

Re: I tried, but it doesn't work! shockedandamazed: I agree with superwife - too many people just think it's OK to just let things fade away (both genders are guilty of this) and I think it shows a lack of character when you can't just tell someone exactly what you are thinking. It's almost liberating to tell someone the truth.

Don't let her sit there and wonder what if, how, when, why, when you can just tell her and she won't have to let her imagination run wild.

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