Is it right to live your life for your kids? Dana: I have friends telling me that I need to go out and enjoy the whole "flirting" scene but I feel like i shouldn't enjoy myself and I should be with my kids 24/7. I feel like they are my life now and they should come before myself. I always said that my first priority is those two but now I don't know what I should do. I know I'm bummed and the nightlife might make me feel better just to get out and enjoy the fun. Laughter is something that doesn't come easy anymore and that's sad because I'm someone who used to love to laugh.
So what do you think? Should I stay at home and let them be my new way of life or do I need to get out and socialize?
Re: Is it right to live your life for your kids? Phyxius: When my divorce was fresh, I would've said make your kids your life in a heartbeat. Four years later, after witnessing my ex do that, I would have to say don't let your own life go by the wayside. Your can make your kids your top priorty without letting own life disappear in the process.
Everybody needs at least some laughter in their life... ;)
FWIW,
Phyx
Re: Is it right to live your life for your kids? Whirlpool: Me and my STBX are opposites. When I have my kids I spend all my time with them, when she has them it is business as usual for her and she is either working, sleeping, or gone out. I only get my daughter half the time so I figure that is about 26 weeks out of the year. I intend to spend as much time with her as I can when I can.
In the end I say do what makes you happy. If spending time at home with your kids is what you want then do it. No rule says you have to go out, but if you want to go out once in a while no rule says you can't hire a babysitter one night a week.
Re: Is it right to live your life for your kids? Feel: Dana, I didn't even finish reading your post, but to be honest, just by your question, I would say you need to leave for your children, they need to know they are #1 in your life.
If you need a day or night take it... but LIVE for your children right now, you will see how happy that will make you! :)
Re: Is it right to live your life for your kids? confused101: I wouldn't say live for the kids because then you miss out on a lot of other stuff, but do make them a top priority in life. Whomever you see as a date, you'll have them in mind when you choose. Whatever you eat, you think about what they eat. etc.
When you don't have them, then you can live like you don't have them. It's ok to go out and flirt and have fun responsibly. When you do have them you have to be the parent and set the example to ensure they grow up as mature adults.
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