Re: Is it right to live your life for your kids? ctrlaltdelete: It's all about balance. My kids are my first priority, but they understand that if Mom doesn't get out of the house every now and then, Mom becomes less of a nice person to deal with. They see that what I do (my career, my friends) shapes me and it sets a good example for them. It teaches my girls that it is okay to be independent and also requires them to be somewhat independent too.
My daughters are 14 and 16 and know how to cook and clean and do small projects around the house. I am currently teaching them how to manage money.
One danger of "living for your kids" is that it puts them in the position to be YOUR support system, which is too much pressure for any kid. Some kids, when put in this situation, feel guilty going out with *their* friends and living their lives because they don't want to abandon you. You are the parent and need to be their pillar of strength. I'm not saying you do this, but it is something to consider as a potential danger. Kids are a wonderful addition to one's life, but never a crutch or an excuse.
You will find balance in time - things are probably just spinning a bit out of control for you right now. It's always good to ask and see what everyone has to say out here. There's some really good opinions and points of view to consider.
