Phone Call ATLfoodie: My wife called me last night. We had idle talk for a few minutes and then I told her I have a therapy appt. at the end of the week. It's with one of the counsellors from the center the Episcopal Church runs. They will also recommend a marriage counsellor for the 2 of us. She didn't seem that interested. I wasn't asking her to go tomorrow. I said in a week or 2 when you are ready. I feel like the more space I give her, the more she pulls away. This is so frustrating.
Re: Phone Call Bird:
Alty, if she's pulling away coz ur giving her space, then honestly hon, while it may not be what you want it's probably for the best in the long run.
whether or not she decides to join you in therapy is irrelevant- coz the fact that your going is great! trust me!
my H is refusing but I'm still going. to be honest, we're headed down the road to divorce and the only thing i can do is accept it- therapy has been great for that! i go twice a week at the moment...
bird
Re: Phone Call ajw: Look!.....how ever unfair it is,she sees you as the root of all her problems right now and any therapy you try and emotionally blackmail her into will drive her further away.
Keep doing the therapy for yourself,but leave her to her own devices,the less contact the better,if it was meant to be she will come back to you
Re: Phone Call ATLfoodie: She called me. I did not solicit the call. She also agreed before the separation to go see a counsellor together. She just wanted to wait a couple of weeks before we did. I only told her that my therapist would recommend one when she was ready.
