Re: Wallowing in self pity icwtsmnl: [quote author=confused in Ky link=topic=31050.msg314893#msg314893 date=1152826309">
I remember when my ex and I got divorced and it seemed like he was having a good time and living it up he was only doing that to get to me. He did! In all reality he wasn't as happy as he seemed to be.
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that's what I say in a lot of my posts. whether you see the ex having fun, or just imagining that they're living it up while you suffer, that's rarely the way it really is.
Re: Wallowing in self pity LostTeacher: a lot of people have been recently telling me that he doesn't seem as happy as he makes it seem. at a recent wedding, the only thing that people noticed was that he was being lead around by the OW, and that he didn't seem to happy with it. and others who have seen him have just said that he doesn't seem happy. part of that makes me happy, but part of that makes me sad. i sometimes feel like there is nothing that is going to make him happy. that he just doesn't know how to get there.
we all have moments of this...i still have them. i have gone through some big ups and downs lately...moving and friends going away and all that. but we get through them, and they become less frequent, and somehow we continue to make it.
LT
Re: Wallowing in self pity shpek: [quote author=mtmo link=topic=31050.msg309385#msg309385 date=1152034578">
It will take some time to feel social again. There are days on this roller coaster when you need to sit and cry, to grieve for what was. Sometimes thats all you can do. Unfortunately, the only way to the other side is straight through that funk. You can and will get through it, and OJar is a great place to share what you are feeling and for support.
Hang in there,
mtmo
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I think so too. The only way through the funk is through it! I'm in the same spot and life seems to just suck lately. Your zest is gone. That feeling of pure happiness. I know. But this crap takes time to work through....
We understand here...
