I NEED SUPPORT NOW!!!!! giver: Well, here it is July 4th and for 14 years I've been at the lake with my entire inlaw family cooking out, boating, swimming, skiing, playing volleyball, horse shoes etc. This year my husband (still can't do the STB thing) and I are seperated and he has now asked for a divorce and told me yesterday he had the money to file and wants me to call and make the appointment. He told my daughter that he wasn't going to the lake this year with the family so she and I had planned to go on down there (it's just been 11 weeks and we still love "our" in laws) Well, I just recieved a call from one of his cousins (the ones we were going to meet up with) and she said, he's here and he's got another woman with him. I knew a bit about the ow but my daughter has no idea. I am so hurt right now. I still feel like it's my place to be with him....not someone elses. Now i have to tell my daughter that we aren't going and try to get by without telling her that her dad is with someone else. She'll be crushed. And during all this I have to keep from jumping off that bridge I want so much to go find. I hate this. I hate this life. I want my Family back and I really don't think I'm striong enough to keep this up. I love my husband and I don't want to keep going like this. I don't know how to let go becasue I don't WANT to let go. Oh God this hurts so bad. I didn't think this feeling could get any worse, but now I'm just not sure it'll ever get any better. I jsut don't wanna do this anymore.
Re: I NEED SUPPORT NOW!!!!! EssieDotCom: awww sweetie ***HUGS*** We've all been here in some form or another; I imagine that gutt twisting feeling that starts in your stomach works its way up your throat and somehow gets suck there... its almost heart stopping and you feel like you're gona explode and there's no one around to save you. It's something that can he helped by talking, or simply hugged. but unfortunately it's a feeling that just doesnt go away, it takes time.. I wish there was someting more supportive I could say to you...something more I could do for you... But I wanted to let you know that we are here for you here at OJAR.
Re: I NEED SUPPORT NOW!!!!! lonely_n_upset: it is better just to tell the truth and be there for your daughter i know where you are at with not wanting to let go cuz i am there right now myself i keep getting told things will be better and sometimes it feels like they are i will try to help anyway possible
Re: I NEED SUPPORT NOW!!!!! Dana: Let the cheating and lying SOB make his own appointment for a lawyer. You aren't his slave and he should realize he doesn't have you anymore to do his dirty work.
As for your daughter, she needs to know. She'll be hurt but you'll be surprised how fast she will jump back and will understand better than you think. He did this NOT you. Why should you make it seem like he's this great guy who just decided to leave? He's with another woman. It's nothing you did and your daughter needs to know that part of being a strong woman is not settling for behavior like this. Teach her that this is hard but you can't control others behaviors only your own.
Now for jumping off a bridge. Had that feeling. I know exactly what you are talking about. Can't breathe, feels like your chest is crushing in and you just want to have some peace. If you jump off that bridge then WHO takes care of your daughter? She needs you right now. You can't put her through anymore pain. Her world is crumbling too. You can't check out and leave her with all the baggage. Just not fair and not what you should do.
Stay strong.....go day by day.....and remember IT WILL GET BETTER!!!
Re: I NEED SUPPORT NOW!!!!! ATLfoodie: Same boat here. I'm supposed to go see fireworks tonight at the same place my wife and I used to go. She may be there, she may not. I want her to just so i can see her. I've been devastated by our separation.
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