Re: I NEED SUPPORT NOW!!!!! UPDATE giver: So I decided that since he was going to be with his family then I would go over to our house and get the restof my clothes and my daughters clothes and some other things she wanted. It was to be a quick trip...in and out...and back to our current living place. WEll, being at the house wasn't as bad as I thought it's would be except I could tell that our dogs ahdnt' been being taken very good care of and seemed really hungry with no dog food there. So I ran down to the store bought some dog food, went to the gas station and then headed back across the street to the house and what did I see but my Jeep (he drives it) in the store parking lot. Seems he had left the lake and had actually stopped there to get dog food (our minds always did run on the same track). So I went back to the store to give him the dog fod I ahd bought , walked in the store and there THEY were. I looked at her and she glared at me and I said, Don't say one word to me. You lied to me and I ahve nothing for you and she said lets take this outside and I walked on back and told him I bought dog food he could get it and we could all leave. At which point we go outside and the OW begins yelling at me that I have no right approaching her and how I'm pathetic and how I liedto him about something she had asked me and so on and so on. This was all a lie. OMG...I thought I wanted to jumpoff a bridge before, now after seeing them together for the 1st time I feel like I'm 100% dying on the inside and I know I have to go on for my daughter, but I don't know how. Actually seeing him with someone else ripped my heart out yet again. Like I said before I don't think I can do this. It's never gonna get better. I just know it's not. How can you ever stop feeling pain when someone you love with everything you have keeps stepping on you over nad over and over. Oh my word.....how do you make it to the other side of this horrible journey? Will it ever end?
Re: I NEED SUPPORT NOW!!!!! e-blogger: Giver,
I am so sorry that you have to go through that crap. I am in the same boat as you are. My husband of 8 years left me for someone else - this woman has 2 kids and I have none.
So you can imagine - they are one big happy family this fourth of July, and I have absolutely no one.
My husband has access to the nice areas where you can see the fireworks because he's a volunteer policeman. So all of her kiddies will be very happy this fourth. And that sucks, this is my favorite holiday. :'(
As if that wasn't enough, the OW (in my case) tried to get my stbx husband to put a restraining order on me, but my lawyer put a stop on that - because it was a very big fabricated false charge. (The OW didn't want to have my husband feel guilty by seeing me all the time, so she tried to get this done) So you can imagine again - how evil they were towards me - even though I was a good wife and I did not cheat on him.
Sometimes I too wonder how they can be so cruel to us - didn't the times we had together mean anything to them??
I guess that when they fall in love, they become someone else - like this entranced person who has no feelings for who they were married to - but only towards the OW/OM. >:(
Tell your husband to make his own appointment. As a matter of fact, you should tell him to limit all contacts with you. He cannot have it both ways, otherwise you are going to get hurt again and again. >:(
Re: I NEED SUPPORT NOW!!!!! giver: Thank you guys SO VERY much for all the encouragement. I will be posting throughout the night. I know I'm gonna need it. Right now I'm going to satrt a new tradition. I'm going to tak emy daughter and we are going to a DIFFERENT lake and watch some fireworks with my family. I hope I can make it through without getting to upset in front of her. I guess this will be the first of many NEW traditions so I may as well start now. I hope some of you are still here when I get home tonight becasue I KNOW I willneed you then for sure!!!! Thanks again and wish me luck. If I happen to run into "THM" I don't know what i'll do. Please talk to me later~!!!!!
Re: I NEED SUPPORT NOW!!!!! icwtsmnl: so what did you and your daughter do last night? did you go anywhere? what did you tell her?
as for the OW, what a piece of trash she is!!! omg, to say to you (in front of this man who is the father of YOUR child) "let's take this outside"?? i am getting so mad at her on your behalf!!! good for you that you didn't get pulled into her irrational trashy goal. insane.
hang in there. hugs for you. lots of them. you and your daughter are going to make it. and good for you that you are setting a NEW tradition. for the girls. :)
Re: I NEED SUPPORT NOW!!!!! giver: Well...I did make it through last night without running into them. Once I got home I was emotionally drained and fell asleep before logging back in to OJAR. My daughter and I went to the river in our local town and sat together and watched the fireworks. it was a sad time for both of us because you could just feel that something was missing (him). She and I talked some and I assured her that we would be fine. Told her it wouldn't be easy, but she was my #1 priority and we WOULD make it. As for the OW...you know, I go back and forth with that....sometimes I despise her, but I don't really even know her. Then sometimes I feel sorry for her because he's got her fooled just the way he has me. But regardless, she knows he's still married and that in itself should be enough.
As for the prayers....THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH...my daughter and I can use all the prayers we can get. We know what prayer can do and both pray each day that Jody find God in his life and see what it is he's doing!! In the mean time, we need strength to carry on. And for some reason, that strength doesn't come easy.
