Over & Done Fjord Girl: I just came back from meeting with lawyer. I renounced alimony, I renounced everything that has to do with that man I married. I found out about other really dirty things he did and seriously... I am darn glad such a person is not in my life anymore. Divorce petition will be sent to court next week and I'll be free before the end of summer.
How do I feel? Like I can finally breathe, like a huge weight has been taken off my shoulders, like I just woke up from a nightmare.
Am I sad? Yes... Yes... I'm sad to know what kind of person he became and all the things he did to get rid of me. He lied, he deceived, he did illegal stuff and he even paid whatever he had to pay to have me gone forever. That's got to hurt, but hey... I'm okay, I really am. I still have a few tears to cry, but right now I feel so light I could fly.
Re: Over & Done lonely_n_upset: the tears are a natural thing i still cry them even though i know who my husband is now and i still want him back for some reason but it is great to know that you feel the way you do
Re: Over & Done MikeB: Bea....
I'm in a dilemma here... I'm so happy to hear that all this helped you to take a big step foreward.. that it helps you to get closure.. that's what I wanted for you...
I'm so sad to hear the man you married was capable of doing these things... I'm so sad to hear he did things no kindhearted person does...
Concerning the latter...
IMO there's nothing quite as sad as learning that person you once loved is capable of doing horrible things... not only does this question your judgement, but when you enter into such an intimate relationship with someone, you trust that person with part of your life, with part of who and what you are... and when that person shows you that s/he is capable of betraying that trust, you feel sad for what that person has become... you made each other a part of each others lives... and that part of his life that was you he has betrayed... forsaken...
I'm so sorry to hear that he behaved worse than you thought...
But then again... we all misjudge other people... you have painfully witnessed that he was/is capable of such a betrayal...
and now you have all the resolve, all the reasons, all the justification you could ever want to seperate yourself from anything connected to him!
I won't claim that I know you.... but judging from what I know, you are a kind, intelligent, passionate and lovely woman... it IS his loss...
And I know you will emerge from this a stronger person....
All that's left to say... YOU GO GIRL! you are strong, you are a good person... you will make it through!!!
But don't give up on love altogether.... you are a kindhearted, sweet amd intelligent person... I'm sure there's someone out there for you...
and don't forget...:
"To fear love is to fear life, and those who fear life are already three parts dead."
-Bertrand Russell, Marriage and Morals, ch. 19
-Mike
Re: Over & Done spooky: I'm glad you feel better. I also hope you can re-adjust easily and wish you the best of luck in everything
Re: Over & Done JNA: [quote author=Fjord Girl link=topic=31065.msg309458#msg309458 date=1152046856">
Am I sad? Yes... Yes... I'm sad to know what kind of person he became and all the things he did to get rid of me. He lied, he deceived, he did illegal stuff and he even paid whatever he had to pay to have me gone forever. That's got to hurt, but hey... I'm okay, I really am. I still have a few tears to cry, but right now I feel so light I could fly.
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Yup...
Some people are real pieces of "Sh*t"...
They are only out for their own personal gain and do not care who they hurt
I met a woman like that a time ago that did more things to me than you could "ever" imagine...
But I'll tell you a little secret
Later on it "Haunts" them more than you know...
Stay Strong
JNA
Sorry he is vindictive...
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