My Mother Bird: I have to learn not to expect anything from her.
Last week when I told her about my split, all she said was 'i was doing really well (health wise) until you just told me this. Now, I'm going to get sick' wtf??
Then two days later she calls me and tells me 'darling, i'm very sorry for what has happened to you but by the way, make sure you don't tell anyone because it will look really bad and people will start gossiping. Oh and it's probably best if you don't come home because you should really concentrate on your studies!' I lost it with her. I couldn't believe her! told her what i thought of her and hung up on her.
A week later she calls me again. This time all she does is cry.
She calls yesterday and tells me what she's been up to- and when she asks me how I am- before I even tell her, she says, oh honey I have to go now.
ARGH!!!!!!!!
Re: My Mother EssieDotCom: I'm sorry... that this hasn't made the two of you closer. I know that if anything happened to my daughter like this my first thought would be to A: kill him and then B: comfort her. I don't see how you telling her this would make her sick, I also don't see a reason to hide it from anyone. Unfortunately my mom did this when D* and I first split. But I didn't hide it, when people asked I told them..... I don't see a reason to hide it. It doesn't look bad on me; and if people think it looks bad "TOUGH TITTIE"....if we all walked around caring what other people think we'd have a million and 1 worries about the way he looked etc.... SUPER BIG HUGS to you..... I wish there was more I could say to advise you here. Maybe you should just flat out tell your mom how everything she's doing is making you feel. You have enough on you, you don't need more to add to it.
Re: My Mother tara: Ugh, I feel for you. My mom gave me a lot of crap at first too.
She still doesn't mention it to people, even though it's been almost two years since the split, and more than a year since the divorce was finalized. I'm living with someone else, FFS.
"How's Tara?" an old friend will ask her.
"Fine."
"How's Al?"
"He's fine too. I don't talk to him much, though."
Yep...as long as the old contacts don't explicitly ask something that requires the answer "they're divorced," she won't mention it.
Re: My Mother Bird: thanks for the hugs eq!
my mom has lupus...and it worsens with stress
but she's never been much of a mother in terms of parenting skills... but i have to admit that i was still surprised by her reaction...
ah well...life goes on i suppose!
bizzarely enough, i get more support from my inlaws then from her. my sis has been great though.
I'm still pissed though >:(
Re: My Mother snkpack: Good Lord, this must have been a weekend for mothers.
I love my mom to death. She is so supportive of me and they do so much for my kids now, but there are times when I feel like I'm not sure how I was born of that woman. She is so immature (60) that sometimes I feel like I'm the grown-up and she's the kid. She's always talking about getting back at someone etc, etc. and I just don't understand why she can't let things go. Talk about holding a grudge. My mom will die hating anyone that's done her family wrong. I know she loves us, but come on. She sometimes hates them worse than we, the wronged, do.
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