My wife said we are delaying the inevitable. Is tonight the night? just_me_detroit: My story short ...
Wife and I have fallen on hard times. I believe she is having an emotional affair. Not physical. I thought it was over. She asked to go to counseling. From counseling I thought there was a chance to save it a good chance. ...
So Monday night I got food poisening and felt horrible that night and the next day. I laid around and did almost nothing all day. (I am feeling better now). I guess my wife didn't like having no help, and we bickered with each all day. Nothing too critical but the tone was bad and a lot was said under are breaths. Bad day.
Today I got this in email.
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Just an FYI, I am canceling our session on Saturday, I have no one to watch the boys. We are just delaying the inevitable? I have read over some of the packet and I don't see us changing that much, we haven't changed in 10 years. Anyway, sorry to cut it short, but I have a meeting to get to. "
I replied.
Couldn't you at least talk to me about this stuff in person
She replied.
That would be fine. You want to talk about it tonight?
She then called me and asked if she should reschedule the session. I said it didn't sound like there was any point. I told her she shouldn't ask me. Only she could answer that. The phone was silent for a few seconds. She asked if I was mad. I said yes. The phone was silent again. She said bye.
Is tonight the night that we end it? I am so sad right now. Not over her. She has treated me bad for a long time and I'm tired of it. I am sad because I am losing my hopes and dreams. Everything I wanted in life will be gone, no chance.
I am scared of tonight. I don't know what to say or do. Any advice?
Re: My wife said we are delaying the inevitable. Is tonight the night? RW1976: People change. Saying that people can't is a cop out. Just let her know that you are willing to work thing out and that your not giving up hope on us. I wish I had some profound advice but I don't. :-\
Re: My wife said we are delaying the inevitable. Is tonight the night? anewday: I agree with RW, you need to let her know that you are still willing to work things out (if you are, that is). Sounds like she is hurting a lot. Does she go to her own counselling?
I wish you luck tonight. I will be thinking of you. Let us know how it goes.
Re: My wife said we are delaying the inevitable. Is tonight the night? Melbel: Tell her what you need from her, ask if she can give it to you. Then whatever her answer is you will need to go from there.
Be strong and stand for you and what you want/need. If she is going to walk away don't let her do it without you saying what you need to say!!
I will be thinking about you!
Melissa
Re: My wife said we are delaying the inevitable. Is tonight the night? just_me_detroit: We talked for several hours last night, but made no decisions. Its all kind of a haze to me now, because I had so much emotion built up.
I wrote some stuff over on my blog. But nothing to critical.
We are still in a holding pattern trying to figure out what to do.
Thanks for your help.
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