Just an update RW1976: Hello all. It is good to be back. I haven't posted since Friday, I was out of town with family. Just so my support network is up to speed, here goes.
On Thursday the X had called and let me know that she just wanted to make sure I knew she wanted to be friends and nothing more. We were scheduled to go to a tournament this weekend, I has hoping it was to rekindle things, I was wrong. I told her that I thought she was leaning that way and that I am not going to go. She also asked if I would pay for my half of the tournament since she was still going. I agreed and told her she could pick that up with the rest of her things over the weekend while dropping off my house keys. She said ok.
On Friday I decided that I was not going to pay for the trip. And I wrote her a letter explaining why ( have really good points why I am not going to pay. If you want to know them I can PM them to you) I would not pay and telling her to keep what she wanted and throw out the rest.
I left on Friday with my brother and headed North to the family camp. When I arrived home on Sunday I expected to see the stuff gone, to my dismay it was still there along with the note.
I don't know why she did not come and get her things. Maybe it was because my car was parked in front of my house, we took my brothers car. Or she got to busy to get to my place over the weekend. So for the last 2 days I have had to walk around her stuff pilled in the living room.
The part that bothers me is that she still has no idea that I am not paying. I just don't feel right about her leaving thinking I was paying half when I really was not. But, I can live with that guilt ;) But, that part that bothers me worse is that I still have to look at the stuff everyday. I WANT CLOSURE. Pick up your sh%t. In this wonderful world of cell phones I have removed all of her numbers from my phone. And I don't have her number anymore. So I can't call her and tell her to get her stuff. But, I don't think I would anyway, I need to remove her from my life.
We were scheduled to leave tomorrow morning and stay until Sunday. So this is going to be a rough week, but I am looking forward to the end. I just want her to get her stuff and get out.
I had a great weekend and was happy. Last week I wasn't sure if that would happen again. And my mother had more words of wisdom, "Move her box of stuff to a corner and move on with your life".
I hope you all had a good fourth of July. Sorry about the length.
Much love,
RW
Re: Just an update anewday: IS there any place you can pu ther stuff so you don't have to look at it? A storage room? A friend's house? I know what you mean about needing closure and if you need her things to be gone for your emotional health - then get that sh!t out of there! Don't wait for her.
Re: Just an update RW1976: Smart minds think alike. A friend here at work asked the same question. So I am going to leave a note on the coffee table leting her know that her things are in the Storage shed out back. Hopefuly when I get home from work today her things are gone.
Re: Just an update Bird: u know a friend of mine got fed up of having her x's stuff around that she basically put everything in a box and sat out on the curb...her x had been promising to come get his stuff but always changed his mind or cancelled. so she called him and told him that it was on the curb...but by the time he got to it, some of it was gone coz those people that drive around picking up other people's old items etc had come taken some of his stuff...
it's pretty harsh though...but awfully funny..
Re: Just an update newts: RW, do you know where she lives? If you do, I would recommend taking her things and leaving them out the front of her house. If she wont give you closure, give yourself the closure. Leave another note asking her to mail your key to you.
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