I really want to go, but feel so stuck Bree: I really need advice. I've had a really hard time. My husband abandoned me while pregnant last yr. We reconciled 3 weeks later and have had quite a bit of hard times getting thru it. He's worked to rebuild the trust, but he's still a jerk (which is who he is).
I gave up our home to stay with him. One of his parents has a terminal illness so we moved in to help be there for them. Well, this person smokes pot sometimes! I do not agree with this, but it's always been kept away from us and our child. Well, hell broke loose when a visitor took the baby in this person's room and I could smell the smell of pot in there! I flipped out and lost it. Hubby got him out at my insistance but did not act like he gave a crap so a huge argument followed. It was very bad! The "parent" screamed at me and yelled at me cutting me down. I've never shown disrespect to this person in any manner!
Well, as you may have guessed I want to leave this house! I feel bad that this person is dying and it's my husband's parent and he is obligated to take care of this person, but I will not jeopardise my child's brain and lungs to remain there with him. On the other hand if it were my parent I could not abandon them since they are dying. I don't know what to do. I feel stuck but I'm so hurt. I spent the whole day crying yesterday. I see not good answer, but the stress of it all is killing me. I don't want to walk out on him, but what else can I do. I cannot be around that person.
Any advice? Opinions? Am I selfish to want to not have to live under this person's roof and answer to them like I'm a child. I'm in my 30's!
Re: I really want to go, but feel so stuck thejoker: MY 2 CENTS WORTH:
As a parent yourself you should feel obligated to do what you feel is in the best interests of your child.
Re: I really want to go, but feel so stuck snkpack: I agree with Joker. Obviously your husband isn't going to act in your child's best interest and someone has to. Move. He already left you before while you were pregnant. My ex did that to me too.
Re: I really want to go, but feel so stuck spooky: Prioritize the child. If you can help them go ahead with that too tough. However, if they are angry at you and can't understand your descision then you need to leave altogether because it just isn't worth it. It's very noble of you to want to help as badly as you seem to, but you have to put your own child first. Tell them to please understand and let you help them however you can, but if they can't show you respect and courtesy then you just can't help them.
