Re: New Kid Who's Dying Inside Deadfish: Yeah dude, I thought me and my ex could fix things too, but then I realized that she would never change. People NEVER change. So I figured I'd divorce her and let her be herself... the lying traitorous bizznatch that she is! I'm glad I did it, or else things would be very awkward and would end up falling apart again later. Get the poor kids outta that environment - cocaine and vampires!!?!? Yikes! (I guess monsters DO exist)
Re: New Kid Who's Dying Inside newts: Welcome to ojar Jrios,
You certainly haven't been too harsh and there is nothing wrong with wanting to be in love and happy.
I admire your loyalty and you again will make some woman a very happy, loving and loyal husband.
The stages of grief will come and go and there is nothing wrong with grieving for what you once had, that is actually beautiful!!
You are a very admirable man and I wish you all the best in your new adventures in life.
Re: New Kid Who's Dying Inside spooky: Sounds to me like you're plenty justified. Sorry it went the way it did, but in the long run you'll be better off.
Re: New Kid Who's Dying Inside Dana: Let me just say I gave my husband the same. Change by this and this date and we can save this marriage. Don't and I file for divorce. Doesn't work. All it did was scare him into running faster which made me realize that I was just wasting my life and his. If your truly meant to work this out then it won't matter if you're together or not.
I saw a quote the other day and can't remember the author but here it is:
People can't change who they are
They can only change behavior.
That one has helped me some. Hope it does you too.
Re: New Kid Who's Dying Inside maine surfer: hey kiddo
hang in there. your story seems very familiar, at least to me. some parts are almost identical. i also found out in april ('05) that my ex was pregnant with our child and by august were were separated. all that pain, crying, emotional rollercoaster- been there done that.
to cheer you up, it does get better as time heals. really does, trust me. moreover, it could have been worse, much worse.
hang in there. god and this site are two most therapudic things I've found to help get through that dark horrible time.
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