How to calm nerves chaotic: Since my divorce, I have been out on several dates with a number of different women. Some I was interested in, others not so. Recently (a few weeks ago) I met a woman whom I am very interested in. She is attractive, has a great sense of humor and a wonderful personality. In short, I would really like to see this relationship last.
Normally when I go out on a date, I dont have a problem with confidence or nerves...At least I did not think so. However in this case, I am having a problem with nervousness. She even asked me about it last night after we watched the fireworks. She does have a job that requires her to read people very closely, so I think she may be more perceptive to it than others. She said she noticed it because when we are chatting, I tend to have a nervous laugh alot.
For example: We have been seeing each other for around 3 weeks now. Last night we went to her place after watching the fireworks. We sat on the couch talking for a couple hours. I had been playing with her hair. It took me over an hour to get the nerve to kiss her. This was not our first kiss, but everytime I am with her, I feel like it is. Its like I start to psych myself out thinking about it. All of a sudden I had no idea how to even approach it. With other women, if I wanted to kiss them, I did. No hesitation or thinking. But with her, I hesitate, think about it and end up getting nervous.
So now, she knows I am nervous when with her and I know that she knows. I thought I had been gaining confidence, but now I am second guessing myself even more. What are some of your tips on not being nervous. I really need to work on this. I know that I can not continue being nervous around her if I want her to stick around.
Re: How to calm nerves snkpack: Lots and lots of beer. :P
Re: How to calm nerves sudboy: Four words:
There's Something About Mary
Suds
Re: How to calm nerves snkpack: Ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwww :-X
Re: How to calm nerves 2be: Well, first off have you thought about telling her that normally you are not nervous but there is something about her that makes you that way? Depending on how you phrase it, it is actually a big compliment!
I think all you're doing is putting WAY to much pressure on yourself... you're putting too much weight on this relationship because you enjoy her so much. Just back off and let things happen naturally... you're over-thinking it.
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