7 Tips to Prevent Infidelity barelybreathing: 7 Tips to Prevent Infidelity
Infidelity doesn't just happen. It can be prevented with thought and action.
Shirley P. Glass and Jean Coppock Staeheli, authors of "Not 'Just Friends': Protect Your Relationship from Infidelity and Heal the Trauma of Betrayal," have seven specific tips they outline in their book to help married couples who treasure their union to stay faithful to each other.
How to prevent infidelity in your marriage, excerpted from "Not 'Just Friends'":
1. Maintain appropriate walls and windows. Keep the windows open at home. Put up privacy walls with others who could threaten your marriage.
2. Recognize that work can be a danger zone. Don't lunch alone or take coffee breaks with the same person all the time. When you travel with a co-worker, meet in public rooms and not in a room with a bed.
3. Avoid emotional intimacy with attractive alternatives to your committed relationship. Resist the desire to rescue an unhappy soul who pours his or her heart out to you.
4. Protect your marriage by discussing relationship issues at home. If you do need to talk to someone else about your marriage, be sure that person is a friend of the marriage. If the friend disparages marriage, respond with something positive about your own relationship.
5. Keep old flames from reigniting. If a former lover is coming to the class reunion, invite your partner to come along. If you value your marriage, think twice about having lunch with an old flame.
6. Don't go over the line when you're online with Internet friends. Discuss your online friendships with your partner and show him/her your e-mail if he/she is interested. Invite your partner to join in your correspondence so your Internet friend won't get any wrong ideas. Don't exchange sexual fantasies online.
7. Make sure your social network is supportive of your marriage. Surround yourself with friends who are happily married and who don't believe in fooling around.
Re:7 Tips to Prevent Infidelity lucyloo: I beleive in all of those, whole heartedly.
There should be another one about recreating alone with a member of the opposite sex, and the frequency of this.
Honestly, for instance, if I like to horseback ride and my husband doesn't but this handsome guy will go with me, sharing something I love with another man might get to me to delevop feelings I don't want to have for him.
But that is the difference between me and someone who cheats- I don't put myself in the position to get those "uncomfortable" feelings. I can see them coming, you know?
What is with some people?
They think they are immune to temptation?
Thanks for this list. I don't know if there's anything a person can do about their spouse cheating, but you can definitely talk about this list together and bring it up every so often.
If a person wants to cheat, or has it in them to be that way, they probably will, but maybe I"m just jaded.
Lucy
Re:7 Tips to Prevent Infidelity justmenow: Here are seven of my own tips for preventing infidelity:
1. Changing your last name to "Bobbit" (or your first name to "Lorena")
2. A clause in the marriage contract that awards you one million dollars for each instance of infidelity.
3. icy/hot in the jock strap
4. A daily viewing of the movie "Fatal Attraction:
5. Post the death certificates of your two previous husbands and remind him that they had both cheated on you too... (you don't actually need two dead husbands, just a good color printer and a little creativity)
6. Bean burritos laced with a laxative (right before a potential "outing")
7. Have "[insert name"> 's HUSBAND" or "Trespassers will be shot" printed on all his underwear.
;D
Re:7 Tips to Prevent Infidelity barelybreathing: Too hilarious girl! I am laughing out loud.
I had read that on the internet today, and thought I would pass it along to ojar. Obviously, too late for you and I but I thought it had some relevance.
BB
Re:7 Tips to Prevent Infidelity galil: I have and easier one for me. Dont marry my ex-wife ;D
