Re: New Stage the Ugly Stage icwtsmnl: you have to realize, its not really the trash that is causing her anger. there is a LOT of under-the-surface emotion there that has more to do with the big picture of the separation than the trash. the trash is just an excuse to be angry. trust me on this one.
Re: New Stage the Ugly Stage Lumpy: [quote author=icwtsmnl link=topic=31507.msg315037#msg315037 date=1152842524">
you have to realize, its not really the trash that is causing her anger. there is a LOT of under-the-surface emotion there that has more to do with the big picture of the separation than the trash. the trash is just an excuse to be angry. trust me on this one.
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I agree with this assessment but that doesn't mean you have to deal with her crap anymore. I dealt with a similar attitude after picking up my stuff that was stored in the garage. (Much of it in a worse state than I left it.) I left some books and a couple small pieces of furniture that I no longer wanted. So, I get an attitude laden call about how she's still cleaning up my messes. The way I see it, she got the house and all of it's contents. Granted, she paid out my half, but I'd still rather keep the house. You wanna talk about messes? She should take a hard look at the state of her kitchen!
Re: New Stage the Ugly Stage ih8BeinAlone: toomuch - you guys are arguing over trash (figuratively and litterally). i think you were doing better when you weren't speaking to each other. do what you gotta do to take care of the situation and don't look back. keep your cool!
Re: New Stage the Ugly Stage just_me_detroit: I have to agree with the other responses. Her anger has nothing to do with the trash. She is looking for an excuse to be mad.
At this point there is no point in fighting with her about it. Go get it and dump it somewhere else. Move on. Try to remember that she is hurting and this is her way of dealing with it. Don't take crap from her but don't give it either.
