Re: Question to the dads.. JNA: [quote author=FIDO link=topic=31510.msg315049#msg315049 date=1152843226">
I have three of my kids and she keep the youngest.
I hate the fact that I do not see my son.
He is only 9 yrs/old and she is F'ing his mind up and laying the old guilt trip on him about her being lonely......
This fall we are pushing for full custody of him again.
It will be a long battle and cost lots of $$$ but it has to be done.
FIDO
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FIDO wrote: He is only 9 yrs/old and she is F'ing his mind up and laying the old guilt trip on him about her being lonely......
This is "sad" and really ticks me off as they have "no" idea what they are doing to him...
FIDO wrote: This fall we are pushing for full custody of him again.
It will be a long battle and cost lots of $$$ but it has to be done.
Well someone told me one time money talks and BS walks...
So will she
"Whatever" it takes get him away from her...
IMO
JNA
I cannot imagine my ex treating her kids like she is...
If my ex for one minute messed with K's mind like that
She would not have shared...No way
Re: Question to the dads.. scad: I have shared/joint custody of my daughter (5-2-2-5 plan) so it's about 50/50. Like Lumpy mentioned, I also make the most of the time with my daughter since I see her less now. Even though it's 50/50, I still miss her terribly when she's not around. If the X ever wants/needs me to take care of our daughter on a non-custody day, I always say yes (if my school schedule allows it) and vice versa (the X is pretty good about that too). While I don't have anyone else in my life at the moment, I can't imagine neglecting my daughter if I were in a relationship.
Re: Question to the dads.. jrios29: I went away on business recently, and realized, as I was sitting in my hotel room, that now my kids will be avoice over the phone a lot more frequently than I care to think about. If you are a good father, the process can never get easier, I feel you begin to accept it, but the pain of reality, that you can't see your kids morning noon and night, everyday, that pain never ceases, you just learn to cope with it
Re: Question to the dads.. stryder: In my marriage my world revolved around my kids ... I would get off of work and pick them up and take them home. My ex would get home around 8 / 9 doing (whatever). At that point I didn't really care I just saw it as time with me and my kids without her in the picture. It was a quiet peaceful time because as soon as she walked into the door the arguements would soon follow.
As soon as we split she made it clear she was to be the one with full custody of the kids ... Why all of a sudden this certain concern for the kids (child support? looking good to people?). My ex was limiting me to seeing them every other weekend and getting them like for an hour twice during the week. I can't speak for your ex, but I know in my case it almost killed me. I was OK with her leaving ... the marriage was bad for years and we were just making it worse, but I had a right to my kids.
Anyways ... that just wasn't going to work. So the first thing I did was I fought for my kids. We were able to settle in mediation and we started with the joint custody.
It wasn't long before it became clear I wasn't just limited to every other week ... I can get them anytime I like. Her on the other hand never asks for any extra time ... btw I'm not patting myself on the back, I make alot of mistakes, but I do try ... the truth is it really bothers me.
It seems like the kids are now an inconvenience for her and her new life style. She has a new bf and it seems serious ... no problem there, but it seems like since he came into the picture that she never spends time with her and the kids. The way I look at it, I have my kids a week (that's their time) ... then I have a week without them (that's my time). One thing that really bothered me ... our daughter was sick one night with her Mom ... and yes the bf was there. To me that's just uncalled for. The ex 'should' have shown more concern for our daughter and told the bf that night would not be a good night to come over ... and likewise the bf should have had a little concern himself. So ... what happens? The ex called me and asked if she could bring our daughter over to my place because our daughter was wanting her Daddy. (Just one of many examples)
And yes ... when my kids are sick they want me. In fact they prefer staying with me altogether ... why? Because when my kids are with me it's all about them. At first their love for me was like me getting the last laugh on the ex. But, once I put aside alot of ill feelings towards her I look at it differently. Feelings towards my ex aside ... I love my kids and I want them to have everything they deserve (especially since I was unable to give them the family Dad/Mom setting) ... which includes a Mother that loves them more than anything and makes her kids top priority. It really bothers me that I feel that is not the case.
We can't control how our ex's feel about our kids nor can we control the quaility of time spent with them. But we can when they are with us. Make the most of the time when you have them ... it's all you can do and your kids will love you forever because of it.
Re: Question to the dads.. fkunone: [quote author=sosad05 link=topic=31510.msg314938#msg314938 date=1152833583">
This is for you dads who have visitation and your xw has majority of custody.
How does that feel...going from having your children everyday to visitation?
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Duh. It sucks.
[quote author=sosad05 link=topic=31510.msg314938#msg314938 date=1152833583">
For those of you who are in new relationships, does that make it better?
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Make what better? The new relationship or...? what?
[quote author=sosad05 link=topic=31510.msg314938#msg314938 date=1152833583">
Dont you hate not having your children all the time?
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Duh.
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