Re: What the ... hudson: I like that list, and pretty much agree with it. I'm not sure that most singles are single by choice though. I think most singles would love to have an SO and anxiously await that person coming into their lives.
I am single by choice. I could very easily be in a relationship right now, hell, I could even be married right now. But something that I realized through my divorce is that I used to put marriage on this pedestal. I viewed marriage as the supreme state of existence, that nothing could be better than marriage. Marriage was one of my primary goals and I thought that once I had achieved it, my standard of life would greatly increase.
But i've learned a bit over the past couple of years. I've learned that marriage ain't all it's cracked up to be. I don't think that being married is better than being single. But of course, i'm a man looking at this from a man's perspective. Women will most likely not see it this way. From what i've observed, women have a much harder time with being single than men do. I don't know why exactly.
Fact is, being married does mean giving up a lot. It means sacrificing a lot of your independence, it mean sacrificing a lot of your individuality, it means conforming, it means having to hassle with somebody when you want to make a choice for yourself, because everything you do henceforth affects the other person. Sure, there are good things too, but that's not the point.
I've been divorced for awhile now and I don't mind being single. Sure it took some time to become comfortable with it, but eventually you begin to see the benefits.
I have a lot of married friends and family. And I'm thankful i'm single at this point in my life.
Re: What the ... yella: I'm single by contract, but you know what? I'm not going to complain too much because for the first time in my life, I don't have drama, and I'm pretty much happy. Of course... the whole physical contact thing is lacking, but that's what bunnies and phones are for. ;)
Seriously speaking... I wasn't completely single by choice. I didn't choose this as something I really wanted, but more of something I really needed.
Then again, when you're a single parent, you still have to answer to someone on some level... like the sitter... you don't have total freedom to do as you please and go where you please. You have no choice but to plan.
Just my 2 cents on the matter... ::)
