fishing in your own pond Deadfish: One of my crazy friends told me to never date anyone from work, because it's too awkward if you break up and have to work with that person every day. That makes sense. He said to never 'fish in your own pond.' And if I do ask her out and she says no, that would definitely be awkward, especially if my other co-workers hear it. Has anyone had good experiences with co-worker dating?
Re: fishing in your own pond thehitekrednek: I dated a girl from work, we're good friends. It was fine when it didn't work out, no hard feelings. If it feels right, do it!!!
Re: fishing in your own pond twobeautifulkids: My ex apparently has. He lives with her. He had, at the very least, an emotional affair with her that assisted in the demise of our marriage (and hers, not so ironically) 15 months ago. He's been with her since. They're going on vacation next week. They commute to work together, they work in the same office, they live together. So I guess it can work.
Re: fishing in your own pond tara: Where else do adults meet people?
Unless your workplace has a policy against it, why not just ask her for coffee?
(I don't get awkward around exes, though, so I'm probably not the best person to ask.)
Re: fishing in your own pond icwtsmnl: dating my coworker is the reason I'm on ojar.
my ex is my current coworker. we even work in the same department. closely. i knew it was a bad idea in the beginning, but we had such an incredible chemistry, that the sexual tension would have just gotten stronger and stronger. so we pursued it and had an incredible time for a year (altho on again off again). talked about moving in together. there was/is a definite love. but we know now that things aren't meant to be. AND ITS HELL. HELL!!!!
seeing him in the hallway, hearing him laugh down the hall, not knowing who i'll have lunch with anymore. i can't concentrate on my work, and my heart pounds all day with the fear/hope of seeing him. its awful and i have to find a new job.
i can't tell you to resist, because maybe it COULD work out. but don't ask her out on a "date". do a group thing and see if she has interest as well. or resist. i don't know what to tell you. but the consequences of a bad breakup are freaking miserable.
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