Re: Being tempted by an ex 2be: That I don't know. ;) But knowing his wife, I'm sure he probably sleeps on the couch! Sorry bub... you didn't make the cut tonight!
Ouch... don't know if *I* could handle that kind of rejection especially from my own wife! LOL
Re: Being tempted by an ex OS: JG,
You can't have it both ways girl. The guy who you fell in love with and are now living with is your first priority. If things get boring then there's something inside of yourself not quite right. Figure out those things first before you label your relationship as boring. Hear me out for a sec...
You guys dated and it was exciting the first couple of months... kinda like all relationships, right? Well, then there's the excitement and diecision about possibly something longer term, so you guys decide to live together. Now that excitement has worn off and you're in a rut. It sounds like you are the one that needs to figure out what you need in your life instead of looking towards someone else to provide that for you.
Yes you do need to go out once in a while, and yes he should have more initiative with that but don't expect him to totally understand your needs when you haven't identified them yourself.
You've hinted at getting your MBA, travelling more, doing more stuff on the weekends, etc... now you're thinking about lettting this other dude in that you saw NO future with. So what is it that will really make you happy? Have you really found that yet, and can you search for it without putting all the burden on your relationship. Take one day at a time and ease the pressure off your relationship. I know it's easier said than done, but you know what you have in Mike. He seems like 'the one' for you, so don't be afraid to challenge yourself once again for yourself.
Don't be afraid of him falling behind if you do make more changes for yourself, but if he's in the picture then open up to him on the things that you want to explore for yourself and possibly for the relationship.
just my thoughts.... and you definitely tested some bad waters by meeting up with Jeff. That was very bad to do, but you are a gambler. Don't do that again with him. He's bad news.... remember he's the one who initially wanted you to follow him around and not have a life of your own. Guys don't change much on that, esp. someone like him who emphatically hates it when you do just one thing for yourself.
be good,
OS
