Re: I have been down for 2 days...Why? confused101: I wish I could say something that would be life altering and bring you out of the funk. When you get sick of being held hostage and feeling like crap you'll fight it so hard. I do. Sounds like you may be starting down that road already.
F*ck them. They don't deserve even a passing thought.
Re: I have been down for 2 days...Why? RW1976: Drowned,
You probably have a lot of unanswered questioned that you would like to ask her. That has something to do with the fact that you wonder about what she is up to. But, you are in the no contact period which can be a double edge sword.
If you did contact her you would be able to let out some of your emotions that have been building for two months. But you would also be pushing her away if you wanted her back. I had to contact my X for piece of mind and closure. And she was nice enough to give that to me. She explained that she was no longer happy in the relationship and was happier alone. It sucks to hear, but it was what I needed to hear.
I do believe no contact is a good thing. It helps with the healing process. Only you can decide what is right with you.
Good luck
RW
Re: I have been down for 2 days...Why? abandoned1: I agree with all that's been said. I've been on the "rollercoaster" now for over two months, and it's finally slowing down, and the lows aren't as low or frequent anymore. I'm feeling much, much better now - but yeah, I do still regress sometimes. We are just entering our 3rd week of no contact, because up until now we've been disconnecting all of our joint accounts together and had to talk - but now that we're not connected in that way anymore there is no reason to talk right now until it's time for me to file for the divorce. It'll definately be good for us - especially since she's pissed at me regarding her move out of the apartment. Not that I did anything wrong - her perception of the situation is warped - IMHO. Anyway... try to keep busy, it's helped me alot. I'll do anything with anyone these days, but I've also noticed that I now feel good enough to be selective about what, and how much I do. I really feel I'm almost where I need to be to truly move on. I hope filing a few months down the road doesn't set me back too far!
Re: I have been down for 2 days...Why? drowned: [quote author=Feel link=topic=31532.msg315197#msg315197 date=1152886022">
Of course u are hurting.... No contact, wow... I wonder too why a sudden drop off the earth....
Don't you want to just see if she is ok, or her to you?
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I don't want anything to do with her anymore, she was very selfish and inconsiderate and took me financially. She doesn't care how I am, I have had ZERO contact, no phone, no email and not even a letter. So, do I care how she is....I don't know how to answer that?????????
It's just shameless how she ended our marriage.....I hate her
Re: I have been down for 2 days...Why? drowned: [quote author=RW1976 link=topic=31532.msg315209#msg315209 date=1152886763">
Drowned,
You probably have a lot of unanswered questioned that you would like to ask her. That has something to do with the fact that you wonder about what she is up to. But, you are in the no contact period which can be a double edge sword.
If you did contact her you would be able to let out some of your emotions that have been building for two months. But you would also be pushing her away if you wanted her back. I had to contact my X for piece of mind and closure. And she was nice enough to give that to me. She explained that she was no longer happy in the relationship and was happier alone. It sucks to hear, but it was what I needed to hear.
I do believe no contact is a good thing. It helps with the healing process. Only you can decide what is right with you.
Good luck
RW
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Thanks Rw,
Actually I have gotten self-closure I guess in finding out somethings I shouldn't have but did about her and her "new single independent life"
I DO NOT want her back at all and I don't even want to see her face again. I have been bitter for sometime now and just for 2 days I have been weak. Damn her!!!!
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