Re: how do you know? JNA: [quote author=icwtsmnl link=topic=31535.msg315273#msg315273 date=1152889406">
i need the wisdom of all you wonderful Ojarians on two matters please:
- when you just feel down in general, how do you know whether its heartache you feel, versus unhappiness with other daily aspects of your life (job, social life, anything)? I'm trying to focus on the REAL cause, but I don't know what it is.
- how do I know if Ojar is helping me (by reading the advice of others and seeing that I'm not alone in my pain), or whether its pushing back my healing by keeping me glued to breakup topics?
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If you are going through "Heartache" you are going to be Depressed...
Thats just how things work sweetie
Sorry for that...
As far as whether OJAR or any other board will help
I've never seen where it isn't helpful for the Walking Wounded...
You get validation for how you feel when most close real life friends don't want to hear about it or get involved
You also get insight on other peoples situation and it normally leads too something they call a "Light Bulb" Affect...
Like Wow...He did that to and it is not right type of thing
Hard to explain in a short post...
Stay Strong
JNA
BTW...
If you feel reading other topics/posts are hurting you
Then just post and get it out...
It does help ya know
Re: how do you know? icwtsmnl: i appreciate that, guys. you're right. hugs to you. :)
Re: how do you know? broken_saint: heya IC,
try not to focus on the negatives as much. i know it's a hard thing to do (trust me i know). instead, try to focus on your own future and on the things that really count for you in life. i swear, sometimes it feels like you're at some constant war with yourself and you feel like no matter what the heart says your logic just won't reason with it. it sux but as time goes on, the pain will ease. hang in there sweetie.
Re: how do you know? thejoker: yeah I am only miserable when I go to bed at night.. so I just stopped going to bed.. I sleep on a park bench now.
you had better be laughing ;D
Re: how do you know? icwtsmnl: tee hee?
