Different house Different rules twine: This may belong in the kids section but it is also a vent. My kids are picking up horrible habbits and it is so frusterating, they used to both be such good eaters now they seem picky and say things like MOM wouldn't make me eat that, also with discipline we arn't on the same page, i believe in discipline she dosn't. I have tried to talk to her a couple times and she told me That until I am the primary caregiver we do things her way.Like i shouldn't have a say in these things.Just wish that we all lived in same town at least and then maybe i could have more affect on there lives
Re: Different house Different rules spooky: She should work with you for the kids overall wellbeing and leave the "primary" whatever out of it.
Re: Different house Different rules JNA: Not to say it is happening but I know when my ex and I split up the kids were trying to pit us against each other...
Not so much to make trouble but in an effort to either get their own way or try to get her and I to talk
Problem is we did so they were "busted"...
LOL
May not apply to your situation but if not then your ex is hurting the kids to hurt you...
If that is the case then she is an Azz for doing that and it will only end up hurting her in the long run
IMO
JNA
Re: Different house Different rules superwife: I can relate too, twine. I think my daughter is finally understanding that 2 houses mean 2 sets of rules. She still tries to test me tho. ANd of course I feel like the meanie. ANd I know exactly what will happen if i try to discuss parenting with my stbx. he will put a spin on it to make it look like I ahve no control over her, and that she's a perfect angel at his house. Sure she is, he doesn't set any limits, so she doesn't have a hissy fit like a 2 yr old when i tell her 'no'.
It is so frustrating. Believe me, I know. But I think she's starting to understand the differences. How old are your kids, and how often do you have them? I know it's easier said than done, but they thrive on routine and consistency. Even if it is inconsistent between Mommy and Daddy, they will begin to realize what they can and cannot get away with with each parent.
Re: Different house Different rules twine: my kids are 5 and 3, they are both girls.... As of now i have custody every second weekend( we live 4.5 hours apart) but the x and her lawer sent my lawer a letter that will give me all school breaks including the entire summer holidays starting jan 01/07, so that will be awsome.I try to be as consistent as i possibly can when the kids are here, but it really urks me when they don't get any punishment at there moms house , then when i ask her she says that I am to strict with my kids.
