Re: sex and moving on ATLfoodie: After my first divorce, I went 18 months without sex. I needed to focus on me. The year following I went crazy and then met my wife and I was toast. Fell head over heels for her. Lost "the little black book", and everything.
The way this is heading now, sometimes I wish i had kept that little black book. Everyone needs a little intimacy. Masturbation alone does not always do the trick. Feeling the warmth of another person in your bed can mean the world.
Re: sex and moving on E: well, I certainly didn't have sex with someone I didn't care about. I actually think I could fall in love with him. It feels the same as I did with my ex in the beginning. But to quote Fido I am terrified of getting "my guts ripped out"! I am, however, still very messed up from the break up of my marriage and I fear all that crap will carry over into any new relationship.
I'm not over my ex, I will always have feelings for him. I guess I just expected that being with someone new would help me get past those feelings. I am a complete mess - no other way to describe it!
Re: sex and moving on MikeB: [quote author=ATLfoodie link=topic=31583.msg316425#msg316425 date=1153100874">
Feeling the warmth of another person in your bed can mean the world.
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That's right... but I would only suffer if the warmth from the other side of the bed wasn't from the person I love... to me it would just feel terribly wrong - it wouldn't mean the world if that person didn't mean the world to me...
..for me... it has to be this one girl... and until then I have two healthy hands and an internet connection (:P)... I know it's no real substitute... but I think by now you know how I feel... no intimacy without love for me
and btw: I never had a little black book... wether literally or figuratively spekaing :)
Re: sex and moving on 2be: I know I've come a long way because I don't need anyone sleeping next to me anymore. At one point, waking up alone was the most horrible feeling... now I could care less. Sure, a woman I cared about being next to me would be nice, but it's just icing on the cake. Plus I'd probalby annoy the hell out of her getting up at 5am on a Saturday morning to go cycling.
Sex is difficult for me without an emotional connection. I'm not sure I could have a booty call. I don't have to be "in love" with the woman, but I certainly have to have that emotion there.
Re: sex and moving on icwtsmnl: i didn't know so many guys feel that way. It gives me hope!
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