Re: just a mini vent Fjord Girl: [quote author=LostTeacher link=topic=31604.msg316145#msg316145 date=1153022014">
i mean, i haven't dated, i haven't been in a new relationship, i've barely gone on a date since seperating. sometimes it makes me wonder if there is something wrong with me. maybe there was a reason my ex decided not to be with me anymore...no one else seems interested.
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LT,
There is nothing wrong with you. If you feel that way, then heck... There is absolutely something wrong with me. Dating and being in a new relationship is not a guarantee that you're "okay". Just a few months after my separation I was in a "relationship" that went to the crapper and it was very hard to deal with. Then I dated someone this year and although things didn't end in bad terms, I never felt very comfortable. I still feel empty and lonely and I haven't reached that place when I feel I can be stable with anyone again.
Anyway, I'm babbling here... What is it that I wanted to say? Oh yes, you're not alone here. I know what it feels like to be left out. And I know it's hard to see everyone in couples and think that you lost that aspect of your life. I have no magic recipes and I think you are like me? I know I keep too much to myself, probably trying to protect yourself. But then it hurts, yes it hurts, when you look at yourself and you feel so lonely.
Of course I'm not making any sense. I'll leave it at "I understand how you feel and I hope it will get better." -- It's like a scratched record, but I DO mean it.
Re: just a mini vent LostTeacher: today was a bit better.
it's when i am alone with my thoughts that i am having a tough time.
maybe it's time for another therapy appt. haven't had one in quite a while.
sunday's for me is the toughest. this was OUR day, and there are lots of memories associated with it.
i need to try my thought-stopping techniques. i had a thread on a different site that was a whole list of things that i needed to run thru my head everytime that i think of him. maybe it's time to find that list.
thanks for listening guys. i don't have a lot of people to share this with. no divorces in the family, or with friends. all of my friends are (right now) happily married, having kids...so it's good to have somewhere to go where people really do understand.
and so you all know...i read everything you all say to me, and i take it to heart. maybe if i start saying some of these kinds words outloud to myself, i will finally start to think them.
LT
Re: just a mini vent Melbel: I try and say 3 nice things about myself when I have said 1 bad thing. Try it. You are doing good and be strong!
Re: just a mini vent icwtsmnl: [quote author=Melbel link=topic=31604.msg316494#msg316494 date=1153109377">
I try and say 3 nice things about myself when I have said 1 bad thing. Try it. You are doing good and be strong!
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when i think of the good things about myself, it makes me say even more, "then why don't I have someone??!!!!"
Re: just a mini vent Melbel: Don't look at it that way! Someday..someone..somewhere will see what we all see and then it will happen!
Melissa
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