AHHHH!! Why is he such an ### BeeAmaz: I don't know what his qualify as... whether it's emotional abuse still or not but it still gets to me so much.
Just got off the phone with stbx. Fri my lawyer went in ex-parte for a support order and they ended up granting visitation to my ex for 10 days in Colorado with the exception that they could not go to the pagan festival. An hour or two later, without knowledge of the judge's decision, we had mediation that was previously scheduled with him on speaker phone.
During the mediation he was not willing to compromise on anything except getting an escort to fly with boys. He wanted the boys to fly by themselves from San Diego to Colorado - they are 9 and 5. So no agreement was made and he was told he would have to get our court date moved up since it was currently set for the 15th.
So today he says that his lawyer told him he can have the boys on the 4th-13th and that i need to make sure I have them ready. I told him about what i heard and his lawyer apparently didn't tell him the judge ruled that he couldn't take the boys to the festival. I told him that I had heard differently regarding him being allowed to take him because we had gone to mediation and until I have something in writing saying so ...
he cuts me off and says he doesn't appreciate me calling him a liar. I didn't call him a liar, I told him I needed something legal stating that. As he's berating me about how I'm calling him a liar supposedly, I cut him off and say I would appreciate it if you would pay your support.
So we get into it a bit there about how he's not paying and he says he is but it's the bank's fault - I know when he gets paid, I know how navy Federal works, I know how allotments work - i've been a Navy wife for the last 10 years - you can't fool me.
And he starts calling me coniving and vindicative. The same things he's been doing this whole time. I was spiteful when I wanted to spend time with him before papers were filed. Now I'm coniving and vindictive because I want him to pay his support on time.
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AHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!