Re: Ever hear of a "Man-Hater"??? yella: [quote author=madmax link=topic=32016.msg322802#msg322802 date=1153684210">
I guess a 'man-hater' is a women who has been wronged and now genuinely hates men...all men...irregardless. [/quote">
I was a genuine "man-hater" for quite sometime. I dated, but hated men at the same time. It's not something I can fully explain, but it was there.
It goes away with time, but it's generally something from the inside that she needs to work on.
Re: Ever hear of a "Man-Hater"??? Lumpy: It might not be completely fair to categorize this person or persons as being a man-hater. In my ex's case, it was a group of single women she was hanging out with. I wouldn't say they were man-haters so much as they just had a different perspective because they weren't married. I think they had a more disposable view of relationships. You also should consider whether or not this point of view is being provided by someone who is interested in her romantically.
Re: Ever hear of a "Man-Hater"??? jadedangel: [color=navy"> Man hater ...
Hmm ... sounds like something that is a bit on the 'too much' side ... who on earth could hate men?
I think Lumpy has the right take here ;) [/color">
Re: Ever hear of a "Man-Hater"??? JNA: My ex was...
In the beginning I was ok with her as she blamed things on her ex
Then I don't know if it was her own depression (which she was all over the chart) or the fact she could no longer blame him anymore...I became the source of her blame...
She did it with the next guy and I'm sure is doing it to somone else now
Problem is with these types the problem lies within them...
My ex was (supposedly) abused by her ex
Something I really do not believe anymore looking back...Especially since her kids want to live with him and not her but...
Point being there is nothing you can do to control that so do the best you can
MadMax wrote: "When I first heard this, I thought 'How dare someone come between us that has no idea what we've been through'...but you know what?...it really doesn't matter. If she decides to listen to such a person, then I guess that is her choice and she'll have to live with it. All I could do at the time is tell her what I felt and if that wasn't good enough then to hell with it."
Yes this happens. It is the main reason her and I are not together any longer...
1) People get jealous of two people being happy sometimes
2) Some people like to stir up sh&t like you wouldn't believe
3) Anytime some girl starts a statement with "Well I was talking to my GF and"...
Watch out...
There are things called Red Flags
Well one not listed is the little red flag called friends she has...
I never had that on my list of Red Flags before but do now
If a GF is trying to intervene during the dating process then it only gets worse later...
Stay Strong
JNA
Re: Ever hear of a "Man-Hater"??? madmax: When I read Lumpy's reply I got a rush of 'terrible' running through my veins...the part about someone else being interested in her. I don't know, and may never know if that is the case. I really don't think so but am not ruling it out completely. I can think of a dozen personal issues that caused her to run...and that ain't one of them.
The group thing...yes - she did mention some of her D'd friends and how they were happy after the D...and how other friends had 'said this and said that' and how they 'tell it like it is' and 'don't sugarcoat it'...etc.
That's really unfortunate because she would never listen to one positive thing I ever had to say. I could compliment her until I was blue in the face and she would never accept it. Guess she's just one of those that can only identify with the negative.
Another thing that is too bad is that she never confided in any of 'our' friends. I have not talked to one person that knew both of us that she ever told 'times are tough'. Seems like she just kept it all bottled up inside and found someone new to share it with...someone that doesn't know me from our relationship...someone that would validate all of the negative things in our relationship...someone that has no idea about how things really were.
Sorry for the rant...I know none of this matters now...still just ticks me off.
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