How do you FIND yourself??????????? Dana: I've read some posting saying how people need to find out who they are and I've even posted this to some. I flipped it around on myself though and now I'm wondering HOW I'm supposed to find out who I am.
I was told that in your 20's that's the time to explore and see what you like and dislike and what you believe in. My 20's were fun and with NO thought to the question, "What will happen if I do this?" I had two children both by the time I was 22 so they were my main focus.
Now I'm 30 and I hear I should know who I am by this point. The only thing I now is that I'm the mother of two wonderful children and the baby of 5 girls. Not much for INNER me. Wish this one got graded on a curve! lol
Not too mention going through this divorce and seperation has flipped my whole world around and even if I knew before who I was I don't think I would trust that now.
Does anyone have a step-by-step on how to find yourself cause I NEED it?
Re: How do you FIND yourself??????????? confused101: Divorce is like a reset button, it makes you re-evaluate who you are, how to make choices, what you believe in....it does totally make your world turn upside down.
I've been through this a while and I'm still trying to find myself. This means trying to find a place in life where I feel totally comfortable with myself. I really don't know if I'll ever achieve that, but it's a nice concept. Kids are a great start because you know how you feel about them. Build off of that and see where it takes you.
Re: How do you FIND yourself??????????? Fjord Girl: I think that more than finding yourself it means after divorce you're on survival mode. That is what happened to me, I was too scared, too broken, I felt like I was going nuts. But I also knew I had to keep going and my fear kept me going (also my faith), like an animal facing danger. I had to learn to rediscover myself because I felt the things I did and was before didn't work in my relationship and my life in general.
So I got out of my shell and faced my fears, I conquered them and I became a different person, probably the person I always was but who was hiding behind others. I didn't find myself, I just let the real person I am come out.
Re: How do you FIND yourself??????????? madmax: It helps me to think about when I was a kid with no inhibitions. What was I thinking back then? What about before I was married? As kids, we are pretty genuine.
I experienced some great things before marriage...and some great things during marriage. I do not think it is necessary to 'write-off' everything that has been good thru your life.
It helps me to focus on the positive things that happened...because they were positive to you for some reason ;)
