Re: Wife's drug use, it is killing me, what do I do? broken_saint: listen, you're obviously not taking it well and that is understandable. find out how bad it really is and try to find out how long exactly if possible. get her some help now and try to get her cleaned up. if you don't, that baby will not live to see her own mother and may question why you left instead of tried to help her. dont waste time!
Re: Wife's drug use, it is killing me, what do I do? Deacon: I'm all for you getting her help, but primarily, I am for you removing your child from a potentially dangerous situation. From the way it sounds, your wife is a stay-at-home mom. If you are working during the day--will you be able to trust her to take care of the child? This is the reality you must face. Your wife has put your family into a position where she cannot be trusted to place your child's best interests first. If she is willing to lie to you and conceal things from you, she has a problem. By the way, the previous statement about cocaine being physically addicting after 30 days is hogwash. All relevant and current addiction studies illustrate that each person is different. The only reason I advocate removing yourself and your child from the home or asking your wife to leave is for the saftey of the child. I am all for helping an individual in need and saving a marriage, but children always come first.
Re: Wife's drug use, it is killing me, what do I do? ajw: [quote author=jackie13 link=topic=32033.msg323074#msg323074 date=1153755106">
I have been thinking on that same track, but do I use the, "if you do it again I am leaving!"
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Screw that!......dont leave!,throw her out,call the cops let them know and have her removed from the house,no judge is going to give her the custody while she has a coke problem and is not willing to do anything about it
Re: Wife's drug use, it is killing me, what do I do? td7629: I agree with Deacon.. if she is the primary caregiver during the day, how can you trust her that she will not being doing drugs. She needs help now before it is too late... I would give her an ultimatum, go into rehab or I am leaving with our child.
Re: Wife's drug use, it is killing me, what do I do? sheydp: See if you can get her to a drug counselor... they can give her the facts, and refer you BOTH to some local help. YOU will need help dealing with her from now on, because no matter whether the marriage survives or not, you have a child together. At the very least, she will have visitation, and her addiction and her responses will follow a somewhat predictable pattern, and you will need to know how to deal with her... Get you both to a counselor!
Shey
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