Re: I need profession ojar advice... Fjord Girl: I guess all I'm trying to say is that you should be careful with your heart. It's good to go out and meet people, but when you "date", there is a chance you will meet someone you feel strongly for and there are times when those feelings are simply the result of not wanting to deal with what comes after a breakup: pain.
I always get off when I read things like this, I don't know why. Probably because rebound is a cause close to my heart? Probably because when I wanted to date and forget about my pain people let me do it so I could learn on my own? And I did learn... Hell, I did! OUCH.
All I can tell you is that if you put yourself out there, there is a risk and you should be aware of it. If you can separate "just having fun" from actually falling for someone for all the wrong reasons, then I'd say "go for it", but I know that our brain just doesn't process well after the person we've loved and shared our lives with decides to leave.
Just be careful...
Re: I need profession ojar advice... poppy: this is very interesting. i agree with what FJ has said. but it also brings up another point that i have been discussing with a friend of mine of the opposite sex: men and women have much different ideas of "companionship" and "nothing serious".
if you want to make new friends right now, great. friends of the opposite sex are great as well. however, it seems that guys want to casually date and include a little physical affection (or more) and call it "companionship" or "nothing serious". to most gals, "companionship" is strictly platonic.
you really owe it to yourself, and all the ladies whose hearts you could break, to put the breaks on and wrap your head around what is happening.
i had a rebound with a guy who insisted he was not rebounding. he most certainly was rebounding. i knew it and he didn't.
clear your head a little while, but please don't hurt anyone else.
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That too!
Re: I need profession ojar advice... hr: It may be a bad idea. What if you find someone that you like. You have baggage that you may not even be aware of. Couples split all the time and some end up back together. Someone may end up getting hurt. Probably the first girl you fall for. Take some time. Hang out with your friends. Even if you are up front about everything, people only hear what they want to hear.
Re: I need profession ojar advice... chaotic: This is why a singles group may be the way to go. Otherwise, perhaps a divorce support group (they usually have rules against dating other members). The singles group that i belong to in my town just goes out occaisionally to the bar, coffee shop, restaraunts, etc. We do not meet up in hopes to find someone, instead we go to hang out with other single people. They do not explicit rules against dating inside the group, but if you are dating you are not single therefore....
Making new friends is important....just be careful
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