A new day Melbel: I did some thinking yesterday and last night. Right now the ONLY person who loves me and wants to make me happy...is me! I need know that if I want to be happy I need to do it, if I want to not do something I need to get a backbone and say no.
I am always so worried about hurting other people when I say or do something but I still hurt them. I hurt them by not being there for me and I hurt them by feeling like I did yesterday. I have been putting myself on hold for a long time. Putting my wants and needs to the side. I justified it by saying I am a wife, a mother a who the h*ll ever. I can't take that cooking class because who will get the kids to practice, I can't do this because who will fix dinner...whatever it may have been. I made excuses of why I wasn't doing something for me! Well NO more!! I have nothing holding me back but me and I refuse to do it anymore.
I like being needed and wanted but if I cut back will they not need/want me? Maybe but I need me and I want me too. I can't do everything and by trying I am overwhelmed. The world will keep turning if I buy cookies for the kids instead of make them and I can buy my christmas cards instead of making them. I am letting go of some control 8)
So today I did the following things for me~
1~ I am not going to assistant coach Parker's (my son) football team. It worked out well because I was able to talk to a dad on the team who I know (huge football fan) and ask if he was interested in taking over for me. He was so happy I asked! I was thrilled. ;D
2~ I am cutting way back on my volunteer time at the local blood bank. They total understood and actually thanked me for everything I have done in the past 6 years.
3~ I told the kids they can only do 1 sport and then boy/girl scouts thats it! They are ok with it.
In doing all these things nobody was mad, nobody! It felt so good to stand up and say I can't do this anymore and I need to let some things go! My god I feel so good! I WILL NOT be the girl who has regrets of not doing something! I want to live life not watch it pass me by. So, I guess I am not only am I surprized that I stood up for me but that nobody was mad at me!
This is a great feeling and my pity party is officially over! ;)
Melissa
Re: A new day JNA: [quote author=Melbel link=topic=32061.msg323400#msg323400 date=1153784418">
In doing all these things nobody was mad, nobody! It felt so good to stand up and say I can't do this anymore and I need to let some things go! My god I feel so good! I WILL NOT be the girl who has regrets of not doing something! I want to live life not watch it pass me by. So, I guess I am not only am I surprized that I stood up for me but that nobody was mad at me!
Melissa
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Then live it and don't let anyone deter you...
You will get stronger everyday
It will just take some time...
Stay Strong
JNA
OH BTW...
If anyone gets "Mad"
They'll get over it...
Take Care Of You
The rest will fall in place...
Re: A new day Melbel: Thanks and I plan on taking care of me!
Re: A new day Dana: I recently found out that very same thing. funny how we think we can't take time for ourselves. We go mad trying to please and take care of everything and then think at the end of the day we're exhausted but "OH AREN'T WE GREAT CUZ WE DO SOOOOO MUCH!" I love taking time for me now. Silly though it may be I'm still exhausted at night but I finally enjoy being me.
Re: A new day BeatenNotBroken: Good for you. Enjoy yourself and good luck.
