Re: question for the guys 2be: And I have to throw in there that you should probably not meet the child(ren) until you two are sure there is a future together. Kids get attached very quickly and you shouldn't be shown as mommy's new "beau" too quickly. Just my .02 from experience.
Good luck! ;)
Re: question for the guys Deadfish: Oh, my sister got it in my head that I should be careful of girls with kids. I don't know. I think kids are cool, but yea, I didn't wanna offend you people - I know alot of you have kids! I can't even imagine what it's like. My ex and I were thinking of having a kid this year... it's a gooood thing we didn't! I would hate to put Deadfish Jr. through all this mess! I do have the habit of judging too fast... ahehe I'm working on that ::)
Re: question for the guys Whirlpool: [quote author=Deadfish link=topic=32075.msg323662#msg323662 date=1153808791">
Oh, my sister got it in my head that I should be careful of girls with kids. I don't know. I think kids are cool, but yea, I didn't wanna offend you people - I know alot of you have kids! I can't even imagine what it's like. My ex and I were thinking of having a kid this year... it's a gooood thing we didn't! I would hate to put Deadfish Jr. through all this mess! I do have the habit of judging too fast... ahehe I'm working on that ::)
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My advice would be don't take advice from your sister anymore. Sounds like she assumes every single woman with a kid is looking for someone to take care of them. Don't flatter yourself, most single moms do just fine on their own and don't need some guy who has zero experience caring for children to take care of them ;) If you are loaded and it is your money you think they are after don't hint to them that you have any the first few contacts.
As for meeting right away I think it shows a bit of desperation personally. A woman who wanted to meet in person after talking one time would throw up red flags for me, that is unless you really hit it off. No harm in meeting for coffee or something.
Re: question for the guys superwife: [quote author=Deadfish link=topic=32075.msg323662#msg323662 date=1153808791">
Oh, my sister got it in my head that I should be careful of girls with kids. I don't know. I think kids are cool, but yea, I didn't wanna offend you people - I know alot of you have kids! I can't even imagine what it's like. My ex and I were thinking of having a kid this year... it's a gooood thing we didn't! I would hate to put Deadfish Jr. through all this mess! I do have the habit of judging too fast... ahehe I'm working on that ::)
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I can appreciate what you are saying, when you put it that way. Just don't judge a chick based on that. There are so many different situations when it comes to kids. It depends on the girl and the kids. I am not looking for a father for my child. Sadly, she is stuck with her biological one >:( (and she's okay with that).
And 2be is right, his story is so sad, but true... Fortunately, with my last relationship (post separation), my daughter didn't get attached to my bf, so all turned out well. And I doubt he got attached to her. He could take her or leave her, I guess (plus he has his pwn kid).
BTW, who's Deadfish Jr ???
Re: question for the guys thehitekrednek: Have fun finding someone in your age group, that doesn't have a kid. Man, you need to step back, take a deep breath, exhale, and go out and meet her. She may be "The One". You'll never know backing away from kids, goats, iguanas, and parents.
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