another man crushedman: Well-
For all those that told me my relationship would never work, it appears you were right. About a week ago, we had a fight about her living situation and I broke up with her. It was half impulse and half premeditation. I wanted a little time apart to clear my head. Well, after the time apart she tells me she doesn't want to get back together and that she now wants to pursue a relationship with another guy. I was crushed and I lost my mind. Sunday night she had a date in which she slept at his house. She is telling me they didn't have sex. I do believe her as her outstanding quality is that she is very very honest (sometimes too honest). But it doesn't really matter, does it? She wants to 'date' him, and she isn't sure if she wants to see me. And really, I don't want to 'date' her while she is dating him, as it would only serve to drive me nuts.
I've seen it written here that the human heart can take a tremendous amount of pain. Isn't that the truth. It gets to the point where you are amazed that you can even live through it.
Why are some people so immature when it comes to love? Rainbows, puppy dogs, ice cream cones, happily ever after... it's not reality. Relationships are like anything else- you get out of it what you put into it.
I've already seen the movie and I know how it ends. Her new relationship will fizzle, and she'll come back. I'd love to put up a front and say that I won't take her back when that happens, but we all know that unless I'm with someone else of course I will take her back.
I plan on dating right away. No way am I going to continue to lay on my bed and cry all night while she out having fun with her proximity infatuation.
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Re: another man icwtsmnl: i'm so sorry to hear that, crushed. i can't imagine the hurt. well, i can, but still. its awful.
you're right, do whats best for you. she lost, you're moving on. keep busy.
big big hugs.
Re: another man 2be: [quote author=crushedman link=topic=32099.msg323781#msg323781 date=1153841593">
I've already seen the movie and I know how it ends. Her new relationship will fizzle, and she'll come back. I'd love to put up a front and say that I won't take her back when that happens, but we all know that unless I'm with someone else of course I will take her back.
I plan on dating right away. No way am I going to continue to lay on my bed and cry all night while she out having fun with her proximity infatuation.
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I'm going to be a jerk here. So instead of taking some time and being by yourself... learning from this experience, you're going to jump right into another relationship? YOu're setting yourself up for more heartache. All you're going to do is transfer your pain onto some new woman... who might be a wonderful person... and you're going to hurt her and yourslef when your wife comes back. Which you've just admitted you will take back.
Take some time and find things you like to do. Be happy with yourself... no one else in the picture. Reflect on your relationship and why it went bad.... what you could have done better (maybe nothing... who knows.)
All I'm saying is just b/c your wife (girlfriend?) is running off and being with some other guy doesn't mean you should. It's not fair to the poor woman who you WILL hurt, and it's not fair to your own heart.
Just my .02 cents. Take it or leave it. :)
Re: another man thehitekrednek: Well said 2Be
Re: another man chaotic: While I do agree with 2Be, it is important to take some time for yourself, I dont think you should avoid "dating". Just keep in mind what you are going thru and be very cautious not to lead anyone on into thinking there is more. Be up front and take things really slow. Its easy to fall for someone when you are down from a breakup. When that relationship doesnt work, the depression can be greater than the original.
2Be has a good point about hurting the other person involved when you start dating too early. But be upfront and take it slow and I think you should be ok.
Go out have a good time. If you want to call it a date or just hang out with a pretty girl whatever.
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