Re: another man broken_saint: hey crushed, chin up bud, you're just having a bad day... which is totally fine. i know you have that feeling of revenge, you want to hurt her as much as she hurt you ... totally fine also in ur anger phase. today will pass, tomorow you'll think a bit more clearer. just hang on bud, tomorow's another day. "get to know yourself again" and what i mean by that is, we all have a part of our lives that we dedicate to ourselves, when our alone time was our "ALONE TIME". hang out with yourself or some friends, go do things you wouldn't or not have done with her, see how you like it, you just might! i know the feeling right now sux, but embrace it CM, your life has changed and it is on it's path whether you like it or not, have some control over it. it's what makes us a stronger person in the end.
Re: another man Itooktherunner: I'm sorry, Crushed :-[ Your ex-GF obviously has no morals or any regards for compassion and feelings for else she wouldn't have treated you that way. You are better off without her.
But I do agree that you shouldn't just start dating. Honestly, I don't think anybody should immediatly date once a relationship ends. You need time to heal. If you don't take time to heal, then your life will never get on track. I have a friend my age who got divorced and she immediatly started dating. After 3 years of divorce, she is STILL dealing with issues with him because she never took the time the heal. You don't have to sit in bed crying. Do stuff. Hang out with friends, see a movie, take up a new hobby, etc. Oh...and see a counselor! I did and it did WONDERS for me and my divorce.
Also, do what you can to NOT take her back. Change your phone number, get it unlisted, block her number, block her email, etc. Whatever you have to do, do it.
Best of luck to you!
Re: another man gatorgirl: Take time out for yourself, do things you like to do that maybe she didn't.
Don't "date" as people here have said. Hang with family & friends. Do not take the ex back. You two may become friends at some point down the road, but my theory is once you leave, don't come back because I won't be waiting. ;)
Re: another man crushedman: Guys-
Thanks for the support. I think you are right about finding someone else. Definetely a bad idea. However, I don't think casual dating is so bad (read: sex lol). The good news is in the span of one week, my pants are already fitting loosely. I didn't need that extra 5-10 pounds. If I drop another 10 I'll be right where I need to be. It is amazing how little I've been eating. Not only do I have no appetite, for some reason I get instantaneously full when I do eat. Strange because the last time I went through this, I gained a TON of weight. Also, I have been sleeping 12-14 hours a night. Even more strange because the last time I went through this I couldn't sleep at all (I prefer it this way).
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Re: another man newts: Hi Crushed,
Yeah, casual dating is just fine. If you spend some time on your own and work out really what it is you want when it comes time for your exes relationship to fizzle out, you will have far too much respect for yourself to want to take her back!
She has done this now, who is to say she wont do it again to you.
As you said they heart can take on so much pain, however, there is a limit before it starts affecting your future, sanity and your health. Don't let your heart get to that point!
