General dating do's and don'ts BankerChick: After reading the female do's and don'ts I thought it would be good to put general tips.
1. Don't be too obsessive. If the other person doesn't call, they might have been too busy to answer. Leaving 5 voice mails after the first date just makes you appear desperate.
2. Don't move too quickly. It could cause a pipi le pew situation (you persue and the other runs away as fast as they can).
3. Don't talk too much about your ex. And if you do, don't say anything desparaging. You're starting a new relationship so empty your luggage at the door.
4. Be curtious. Please and thank you go a long way.
5. Be flexible. If you have to cancel, reschedule unless you really didn't want to go out with the other person to begin with.
6. Guys, I hate to say it, but bring cash and plastic to the first date. If the woman wants to go dutch great, but expect to pay on the first date.
7. Do open her doors. Hold out your hand if you ahve a really big truck and she has a skirt and heels, etc. Little things go a long way.
8. Do compliment the other person.
9. Do listen to them. Shut up about yourself for a few minutes to hear what they have to say. (I have to remind myself of this one personally).
10. Don't drink too much. Impaired judgement always follows.
11. Don't look too hard for faults in the other person. You'll always find something to sabotage the next relationship. You've been hurt before so you don't want to set yourself up to have it happen again.
12. Don't make plans out too quickly (i.e. don't start naming your future kids on teh second date).
Anybody else want to add to this?
Re:General dating do's and don'ts Sharp: Is it wrong for a woman to WANT the first date to be paid for, as opposed to going dutch? What the heck is etiquette on something like that, and how in the world can you predetermine that just to NOT look like a complete gold-digger?
Re:General dating do's and don'ts skavachi: If I wasn't the poor bastard that I am, I will always pay for the date no matter what. I was raised with the old timers rules. Women aren't considered as gold diggers if they want me to pay for dinner. I like to pay actually...guess it is in my dating rules. I love women... ;D
-Dave
Re:General dating do's and don'ts BankerChick: I've been on first dates where we started out one place (he paid) ended up with drinks later on at a show (I paid).
I usually go dutch, but if he insists, I'll let him pay. Most of the guys I've gone out with I make more money than anyway, so why not?
I did go out with one dud to a cash only place. Come to find out he had 4 beers before we met (and I was on time). How did I know? He didn't have a check or cash and I had to pay for the entire bill. Then he chastized me for paying. Needless to say, we didn't go out again.
Re:General dating do's and don'ts Safetykc: Sorry about the dud BC...yikes.
Sharp,
Usually it depends who asks who out in some cases. If someone asks you at they should be prepared to pick up the tab, and in most cases most guys will want to pay or go dutch, depends on how they were brought up.
If one party or the other is always paying saying this ones on me is a nice gesture, or maybe paying for drinks before dinner or something.
Each situation and person you go out with can be different. I don't think you can go wrong either way and most people wouldn't consider it gold-digging. It's just dinner or a movie, not jewelry or something. Although that brings up a good point. If someone takes you out to dinner, you could pick up the movie...or if they pay for the movie, you popcorn, etc...just a thought.
Sometimes its best just to play it by ear.
Take care and good luck.
Safety
